Do you ever wonder why people always want to jump into a relationship without taking it slowly? For some all it takes is one date and they are off and running in their head. I believe it must be something you’re running away from on some emotion level.

It should never be that the next man or woman that comes along is your ticket to happiness. You know nothing about them and it takes times to really get to know someone. I know it is hard to stay in reality and not get caught up in a new romance. I have done this myself but learned that it was my own insecurities and fears that led me to wanting to jump right in.

If a relationship is meant to be time will tell. A new relationship stirs up so much in each of us. Each of us is dealing with some old hurts and feelings. This can only be worked out by pushing through the scary stuff. So the next time you meet someone new have patience and listen to your mind and heart. Mr. or Miss Wrong will never turn into Mr. or Miss Right no matter how hard you try.

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This past weekend I attend a workshop called the Millionaire Mind in NJ. The founder is T. Harv Eker who is a best selling author. If you want to be Financially Free it is well worth the time and effort. But, here is what you really need to know. Along with ways to manage your money it is all about selling other trainings classes. So you have to be able to tune out the selling part and focus on the tools that T. Harv Eker gives you to manage your money and invest for your future. If you want
financial freedom he is the man to learn a lot from.

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You can’t rush love especially when it comes to meeting someone from one of the internet dating sites. Trust me I understand how you can get your hopes up planning to meet someone. It is not healthy to put all your energy and hopes in a one hour date.

You really need to think of this as an adventure and take the chance on the chemistry just not being there. If you’re like me you know within 5 minutes if there is any chemistry or not. Then there are others who need a couple dates to know if this is Mr. or Miss Right.

There are so many lonely people who are looking for their soul mate. When you single focus on yourself and find what makes you happy. We can’t wait around for love to come a knocking at our door. Be happy and love will find you when you least expect it.

The bottom line is hopes and dreams are very important but we have to be open it. If you planning a date with someone new just go and see what you see or feel. Remember, as I keep saying a first date is a “meet and greet”.

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I rather enjoy working with young women to feel confident and secure in who they are. We can all be mentors to the younger generations and give back. You remember how tough it was as a young women facing adulthood.

For me it is one of the best feelings in the world to help guide someone who appears lost and all alone with their thoughts and feelings. Most of the time we just need someone to talk to and bounce ideas off of. Sometimes you need someone other than a parent to provide feedback or just listen.

So ladies give back to the younger generations and feel the reward.

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Being dishonest is never good in any relationship. In my opinion lies only come back to bite you in the butt. There are so many people who can’t even keep track of their own lies. If you are one of those people who feel the need to lie I suggest that you take a good long look inside. It is out of insecurities that make people lie because they don’t feel like they will be accepted.

I hear so many stories about deception in relationships that it scary. If you are able to give your heart completely to someone there is always risk involved. We all make mistakes and we are human. No one is perfect so why hide your imperfections?

The truth can only set you free. Be honest with your partner and trust that if they love you they will be supportive. And if not maybe you are with the wrong person. We are not here to judge one another even though we can get caught up in the drama of our lives.

I can tell you long ago I was afraid to tell people how I felt for fear they would leave me. But, once I took the time to work on myself and feel secure the fear just went away. I’m all about risking my heart for the bigger reward that life has to show me. Above all when your honest and speak the truth it’s a win win situation. The most important relationship is with yourself first.

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I am currently working on a program to bring Empowerment into the workplace. Corporate America needs to empower their employees. Through Empowerment people will get to know their best self and the power they have within to successed in their careers.

I work for a company of about 3,ooo employees and I could tell you that this corporation needs Empowerment Training now. There is too much negative energy in the house. What makes a company succeed is the employees. Whether we are talking about sales, customer service or operations. Everyone works within their own group and has major trouble working with internal departments.

Let’s start to feel empowered at work and it will spread to our customers and increase our profit margins as if it was magic.

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If someone will not discuss their past relationships with you is this a problem? I think it is a huge problem and one that needs to be explored. It just makes me think that they are hiding something or are afraid they will be judged.

When a relationship ends at first you deal with all of your emotions and feelings. But, when some time passes it’s important to look at what lessons were learned. We all need to take responsiblity for our role in any relationship. It is never just one persons fault because a relationship involves two parties.

What may be a good idea to get the discussion started is to ask what the person has learned about themselves in their past relationships. This could lead to your new partner talking about what he or she is afraid to share.

Try it because you have nothing to lose and it is a great way to learn about each other.

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Have you ever noticed the people at the gym who just socialize and work out very little? Trust me this is a social outlet for many. You are surrounded by people with the same interested in staying fit. I think the gym is a great place to meet new people. But, dating every man or women that crosses your path is a big no no. And if you think it is only the 20 to 30 something crowd guess again.

I have known many men and women who use the gym as their main source of dating. Not a problem but you really don’t want to be known as the gym slut do you? I can remember an old friend of mine who was very attractive and she would flirt with every guy at the gym. I think she dated every good looking guy at the gym. One day a male friend of mine called me since we both knew this women to gossip. He told me she has slept with a lot of guys from the gym. I was very turned off and was not aware that she was sleeping with all these men.

Even I have dated guys from the gym but I only went out with the men I was really interested in. I look at it this way. Going to the gym is one of the things I can do for myself. It is my time to work out and clear my head. I didn’t want to have to avoid anyone at the gym or change the time I worked out just because I had a bad date.

Allot of couples have met at the gym and gotten married which is great. Just don’t use it as your “playground” in an unhealthy way.

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Even people who are Life Coaches have their own issues. I find it very funny when I’m having trouble in my relationship that people think I should have all my own answers. I’m the first one to say tell me your problem and I’m help you work it out.

I deal with all the same issues as everyone else. That is why I understand the struggles you go through with your partner. Every relationship has its ups and downs. Have you ever thought one of your friends has the best relationship ever because they get along so well and don’t fight? Think again, any couple that never disagrees has some real issues that are just not being dealt with. For instance, when I was a teenager and my friends met my parents they would say “Your parents are so awesome”. I thought this was so funny because they had no idea what it was like when it was just my family. Sure, on the outside everything looked great but trusts me my family was as dysfunctional as the next.

I am very intuitive even in my own relationships. I deal head on with any problems that may arise whether it is with my partner, parent, siblings and friends. That is what attracts people to me for advice. They see me dealing in reality and not fantasy. With me you will always get feedback which is honest.

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When your emotions are all over the place in your relationship you MUST pay attention. Should I stay or should I go is a question that does need an answer. Take some time alone to listen to your inner chatter and you will find the answers. Journal if it helps! Need to talk?

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