When there is conflict in a relationship it can be very upsetting. You have to ask yourself what is the reality of the situation. The blame can not be placed on just one of you.  What you need to do is try and see both sides.  Think of it as watching a movie and really seeing the characters.  This takes practice because most of the time we get all in our head and can’t see what is really going on. This used to be me but now I take a step back and see the reality of the situation.  You need to really listen and understand your partners view. 

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We all have our own style of communication. I for one never used to be able to communicate my true feelings out of fear of rejection. But, I found through a lot of hard inner work that I needed to face my own demons. Now I find it easy to speak my truth and allow others to have their own views. I always thought you needed to view things the same in order to keep the peace. This is just not so.  What you do need is common goals to make communication work.  Seeing somone elses views can be enlightening.  Try and stay open to others opinion and remember that there are always two sides. 

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If your not happy and want life to be different it will take work.  Doing nothing about your unhappiness is like spinning your wheels and staying stuck.  If your looking for love but never do anything about it guess what will happen.  It’s like waiting for Publisher’s Clearing house to come knocking on your door and give you tons of money.  Chances are it’s not going to happen.  So I challenge you to explore coaching and take the first step to improving your life and creating a new beginning. 

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There are so many single people frustrated when it comes to their dating situation.  I wish I had a magic bullet to come up with one solution that would work for everyone to improve their love life. A year ago I was looking for the magic bullet myself.  The bottom line is you have to be in it to win it.  You need to stay open to new ideas of ways to meet new people. If the internet dating isn’t working for you let your friends and co-workers know that your willing to be fixed up if they know of someone.  Or, how about joining a sports group such as a skiing or volleyball club.  Find what interests you and research what organizations are out there to join.  In the next coming weeks I will post more ideas for finding your soul mate.  The bottom line is there is work and energy on your part to make this happen.

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Instead of making New Years resolutions this year how about setting goals? Resolutions are easily broken and forgotten.  I want to challenge the single people to start taking steps to improve their dating life.  If finding a soul mate is high on your list start taking steps to better your chances.  Don’t just say you’re going to join an internet dating site actually do it.  When I say do it I mean sign up and start taking action.  Too many people sign up and never complete their profile or respond to emails.  As the Nike slogan goes “JUST DO IT”!

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I understand that being single can be very frustrating at times. It took me until  I was 45 years old to find my one true love. There is alot of wasted energy focusing on what we don’t have and past relationships and patterns.  If your not in a relationship and are depressed during the holidays it is up to you to change your additude. We can not expect family and friends to completely get it. Maybe you are not being as proactive in your dating approach and need to find something that works for you. My advice at times my seem generic but I have a broad range for readers.  If you want more detail regarding your situation feel free to write me and I would be more than happy to assist.

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It is very common for single people to be depressed during the holiday season. It is all about your loved ones and family. Always remember even when your not dating there are plenty of people in your life that love you and care for you.

What is must important is treat yourself with kindness during the holidays. Focus on what you have and not what is missing. We all have things to be grateful for so stay positive. Make a wish list for 2007. Write down all you hope, desires and wishes for the new year. Ask for what you want in a positive way to your higher power and watch what can happen. It will keep you on the positive path.

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Are you one of those people who say “Why Me” when a relationship ends? Check out Dating Resolutions for 2007.
The truth is we need to look within when a relationship ends to assess of role in the breakup. But, it is not always your fault. Remember that it takes 2 to make any relationship work. Try to look beyond all the self doubt and review what lessons you learned. Your getting one step closer to finding true love!

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There are times when one is tested within their relationships. It is very hard not to react when your partner’s behavior or words are hurtful. It can really push one’s buttons and your need to sort of what is their stuff and what is yours. I for one have learned not to react right away. I have the ability to look deeper and really see what is going on. We are all tested everyday in one way or another. If you react to everything you could make the situation worse. Step back and above all don’t take on your partners stuff. You partner could be testing you and your relationship which we all do.

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