I have not spoken about my own experience as an adult with bullying and harassment until now. I worked for a Telecommunications company over nine years. During the past two years it was a tough road to say the least. I experienced discrimination, harassment and bullying. The details are not important but the treatment of human beings is.

Anyone who knows me can tell you that I speak my mind and advocate for fair and equal treatment. In this day and age any company who tolerate this behavior is living in the Stone Age. I filed three complaints with Human Resources with no action taken. But, we all know that HR does what they can to protect the company. The management staff in my office treated their employees like children. But, it became a totally different environment after we lost of VP of eight years. I had so much respect for him and enjoyed working for him. The women went through hell being treated like pieces of dirt. Only the ones who have no backbone or respect for themselves still work there. I can remember during training the head of the Ethics Committee did a dog and pony show. He himself sent a clear message of intimidation and the consequences if you take action against the company. The company has had a number of lawsuits against them and you would think they would learn once and for all.

I’m a breast cancer survivor and never once gave up or felt sorry for myself. But, the last two years took a toll on me emotionally and lead me to leave my employer. I always take responsibility for my actions as we are all accountable for ourselves. I thank God this battle is over and I’m free from bullying, discrimination and harassment.

Now, I can focus on a career that advocates for victims rights along with Empowerment. Always stand up for yourself regardless of the situation. Demand respect and fair treatment no matter what. . Be kind to yourself and know when it’s time to walk away. Those who mistreat, harm, and disrespect fellow human beings have to live with themselves and their own ugly truth.

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One of my closest friends is taking a shot at Online Dating again. Her stories bring me back to several earlier posts. Dating can feel like an interview at times. But, how much information should you reveal before meeting? Why do people feel the need to talk about other people they met online? Being negative is the worst thing you can do. Think about what you reveal and what it says about you.

My advice is just make a date for coffee or a drink instead. I know we get excited at the thought of finding love. Try and play it cool. Don’t call the other person and text them a thousand times before you even meet.

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My wish for the New Year is that each of us remains true to ourselves. And, treat everyone as you would want to be treated without any exceptions. I see so many young adults online being bullies. In my eyes, it doesn’t matter if you are 12 or 80 years old.

Why do we tolerate this behavior? I believe strongly that if you are a bully or negative it is time to take a long hard look within yourself. YOU are the one with the problem! I have told my nieces that even when your peers say something mean and hurtful stand strong for you know the truth better than anyone.

Feel empowered and surround yourself with positive, honest and caring people. This includes school, work and love. Each of us deserves to be treated with kindness and respect.

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Things to Remember

Remember that your presence is a present to the world.
Remember that you are a unique and unrepeatable creation.
Remember that your life can be what you want it to be.
Remember to count your blessings, not your troubles.
Remember that you will make it through whatever comes along.
Remember that most of the answers you need are within you.
Remember those dreams waiting to be realized.
Remember that decisions are too important to leave to chance.
Remember to always reach for the best that is within you.
Remember that nothing wastes more energy than worry.
Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
Remember that the longer you carry a grudge, the heavier it gets.
Remember to laugh.
Remember that a little love goes a long way.
Remember that a lot goes forever.
Remember that happiness is more often found in giving than getting.
Remember that life’s treasures are people, not things.

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Loyalty means the state or quality of being loyal; faithfulness to commitments or obligations. This is whether we are talking about love, family, friends and employees. One major problem is that people are not seen as valued in some cases. Think about all the folks unemployed and layed off who have been loyal for years to their employers. It’s a tough pill to swallow for people to work somewhere for what feels like forever. We can all be replace no matter how good of a job you do.

Now, when it comes to love,family and friends being loyal really counts. In my mind if you can’t be loyal then you don’t deserve to be a part of ones life. We all know lovers, friends and even co-workers that will turn on you at the drop of a dime. Most of the time it has NOTHING to do with you. People who are truly unhappy, jealous, and or have little self esteem are the ones to watch out for.

Remember, stay true to yourself and stay strong when people let you down. I have been there and survived much worse. Again, when one door closes another door opens! WOO HOO!

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My life has been very busy for the past year. I’ve been working close to 55 hours a week at my full time job. I used to blog everyday and need to get back to being CoachMarcie. Most of my coaching has been working with groups to help empower women to overcome their fears and reach for their dreams. I am now working with World Pulse as a mentor for a great pilot program.

Now, is the time for me to focus on myself and my clients. There has been a shift in my career that has me at the fork in the road. Which way do I go? I am a firm believer that when one door closes another one opens. So I pledge to my followers and myself to get back on track. Someone said to me “you’re a coach so therefore I should have my shit together”. I just rolled my eyes and laughed. I’m just like everyone else getting caught up in life but I have the will to move forward without looking back.

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It is rare that I would suggest a book about dieting but I just have to share. Bethenny Frankel new book Naturally Thin is all about changing you view about food. I adore her on Housewives of NY as the sassy single women. The book is easy to read, honest and funny.

My own coaching is about changing patterns and old behavior and this book is all about getting you butt in gear and just doing it.

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I have recently been asked to be a Mentor for World Pulse. The organization is a new international women’s correspondent program and network. It’s time to give back. The founder of WorldPulse is JENSINE LARSEN and below is her message to all and why to join this organization.

Founder’s Message

Our voices and visions will transform the future.

“I want to tell my story.”
“I have a vision, but I need some support to realize it.”
“I want space to collaborate and make a difference.”

Everywhere I go, I hear these similar yearnings from women over and over again.

I arrived in the Amazon at the age of 19, determined to become a journalist. There, I listened to indigenous women struggling to protect their land from oil contamination, and later I worked with women refugees on the war-torn Burma-Thailand border. Since then, traveling around the world as an international journalist and founding World Pulse, I constantly find myself asking women what they need to realize their visions.

By watching countless women accomplish amazing things I have learned that it is entirely possible for us to achieve our visions—and I believe that these visions have the potential to change the world.

I notice that when we speak our visions out loud, they come alive—whether we want to start a business, change a law, feed our children or find our purpose in life. Often, we simply need to connect to the right support network to make it happen.

We are creating PulseWire as a place where we can come together make our visions a reality. On PulseWire we have the power to build an unstoppable global community of women — a community with outstretched hands, supporting each other’s dreams and together, transforming the future.

Join us. Add YOUR voice. We’re listening.

- JENSINE LARSEN | World Pulse Founder

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Does being a dating coach mean that you have no issues with your relationships? We all have demons in our closets and are not perfect. For me, as a coach my own relationship issues do not come into play when I’m working with clients.

I was a caller on a radio show this week with a famous coach. I chose to ask for some advice from an expert about the direction my coaching was going in. I did not call in to discuss my own 3 year relationship but that was the focus on the call. I was pre-screened so I thought I would knew how the call would go.

My strenghts are working with clients that are having trouble in their relationships or dating. Is the fact that I have never been married and had my own issues affect how I coach? I think not but I could be wrong. I’d like to hear from the folks out there what you think? So please comment on my blog as I will remain totally open minded.

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No matter what you think there is so much to be thankful for. I know this time of year can be hard for some people and you must try and stay as positive as possible.
Be grateful for the following:
Each Day
Each experience whether good or bad
Your present health
Your family
Your friends
Your job
Each time you laugh or cry
Making the most out of life
Accepting love in your life
Staying positive
Not taking on others negative energy

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