You should always stay true to yourself and what your looking when your dating. So many times we give our power over to another. This can happen if you settle on issues that are important to you. Deep inside ourselves we know when this is happening.

We date or get involved with people that are not ideal for us just so we get a moment of pleasure or don’t want to be alone. So we begin to settle on the idea that it’s better than nothing.

We all have personal power within us. What makes us feel powerful and what doesn’t? There have been times when my inner voice is so strong that I can not avoid doing what’s best for myself. It really about doing what is right.

An example is you meet someone and your interested in them. I started dating an old boyfriend for a short time about 2 years ago. Scheduling to see each other was always around him and his free time. I never even complained or discuss the issue with him. At least I got to see him was what I started telling myself.

I gave my power away to him and finally I decieded this is just wrong. I want to be with someone who makes time to see me and looks forward to the next time we get together. Once I made the decision to honor what I needed it was just so clear that I needed to walk away. The best part was I didn’t feel sad or like I was losing something. I felt empowered and was so proud of myself.

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I would much rather get dating advice from someone who has the experience. You need to be in it to understand what single men and women go through. Have you ever had married friends who have been married for 10 years try and give you advice? Or what about having a therapist who has no clue what dating involves in 2006?

I’m not saying I am the expert on dating and don’t make my own mistakes. But, I live in reality as my friends would say. I’ve spent a couple years online, blind dates and meeting men. I have learned from my mistakes and am able to have a real conversation about what dating is like. I see so many men and women so frustrated with dating that they just want to give up. Don’t let anyone fool you IT IS WORK and you have to be on your toes.

All we need to do is slow down and listen to our inner voice when you get confused about a relationship or dating. The signs are there when things aren’t going that well and it takes action and thought to move beyond a situation. This holds true for relationships and dates that are going well. I know some people that would rather stay in a relationship that is not working than be alone. It is easy to overlook some things but when the handwriting is on the wall you need to get out. I know easier said than done.

It took years until I was comfortable being alone and sitting with myself and all the feelings. I would rather be alone and happy than with someone just for the sake of not being alone. I enjoy my life regardless of being in a relationship or not.

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I thought this movie was so funny. Can you even image if this really goes on? What was even funnier was the guys going to funerals to pick up chicks. I decieded to ask my friends if they have ever picked up a guy at a wedding and most said no. Going to weddings as a single women is a very strange thing. As the years go by and you haven’t been married you begin to feel like there is something wrong. You become so focused on all the couples around you and start to feel sorrry for yourself.

We need to just stay true to the process of meeting someone and know that everything is timing. I have no issues now about going to a wedding alone but i guess that is because I feel secure and confident in myself. Being single is not so bad and is better than being with the wrong person.

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Why do so many people have trouble being honest? Is it because they are a coward or trying to protect you from the truth?

I would much rather hear the truth from someone then a bold face lie or for that matter even the little white lies that are so easy to tell. Being honest doesn’t mean hurting peoples feelings. I have met some people who say “I am very open and honest” but they don’t even think before they open their mouth. They pass judgement too fast without really thinking or seeing the truth.

I remember meeting a guy once and he was so critical of every move or word I said. I found this such a turn off. As if he was perfect himself. But, I hung out with him a little bit to see if he would chill out and just relax. This never happened and that was the last I saw of him. Even my closest friends and family don’t get away with this behavior. No problem if they are giving their opinion on something or provide feedback.

I’m very honest but never try and hurt anyone’s feelings. Some things are just best left alone and just observed. There is a right and wrong way to be honest.

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You know when you get an email from an internet dating site that someone’s interested in you? If your answer is yes did you ever wonder about the following?

Most of the people showing interest never even read your profile they just wink as on match. Don’t people realize each site makes you fill out a profile for a reason? I am much more interested in getting an email saying hi and I liked your profile. Most sites have a way for you to see who has viewed your profile.

I understand for most of us it is the picture that first interests us and if were not interested we just move to the next profile. Unless I find myself attracted to the photo I will not respond to the wink or showing of interest. And if they never read my profile I won’t even respond. I know this sounds tough but the type of men I’m interested would make the final decision to contact me by reading my profile.

Some of the sites let you send a “No Thank You”. I thought this was a good idea until someone wrote me back and told me off. No one likes rejection and maybe this is taking it too far.

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You need to view the men and women you meet on line as a “Meet and Greet”. Too many of us put so much hope into dating. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t be hopeful because you need to be.

How many of us have THOUGHT we really connected with someone on the phone? I have done this way too many times. All I can say is until you are face to face with the person you will not have the whole picture. So many times we voice our hopes, wants and desires to the person on the other end of the phone.

I know the difference between right and wrong. I have spent hours on the phone with someone who I feel so hopeful about. Once I was in the same space as them it was a whole other story. But, it felt good to connect with the person.

Just me smart about your choices and remember it is just a “MEET AND GREET”.

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2005 has been an interesting year regarding the men I have met. I myself have used internet dating sites but haven’t found my soul mate. But, if I look back on the men I have met they all have provided me with insight as to what qualities I am looking for.

Barry lived 2 hours away in the country but he was awesome to talk to on the phone. We were both looking for the same thing out of a relationship although he was still not over his last relationship and made this very clear. But, what I got out of knowing him was that there are men who can express their feelings. The real hint that this wouldn’t work out was that he never heard of the pagers that restaurants hand out to let you know your table is ready. All, I thought to myself was how far out in the country do you live?

Tom lived in New York but I loved his profile because we had so much in common. This was more of a fantasy relationship at first via email and the talking on the phone. Then reality set in when he wanted to have phone sex! No wonder he was writing women who lived in a different state.

Pete woke my heart up from a very long sleep. Still to this day I don’t understand why I felt the way I did about him because we only went out twice. He lost his wife about 6 months before we met. On our first date we went on his motorcycle for a couple hours and I had a blast. I felt a connection to him that I didn’t quite get. But, he ran away and I haven’t seen him since. Things that make you go hmmmm.

Jim was the first man I met that got the meaning of life and why we are all here. But, there was no chemistry what so ever. Enough said.

Billy was a very upfront, honest and a good looking guy. Honesty is very important to me and it was refreshing to communicate with him. But, when we met in person he was so judgmental and said whatever he was thinking. Hello, some things one needs to keep to themselves. He took the ability of express ones thoughts to a new level.

Together, all these men had qualities of what I’m looking for in a soul mate. What I can tell you is I know I’m getting closer to finding my soul mate. Although, I always have something going on and don’t use the internet as my only dating tool it can be very interesting. Keep checking in to read more about the men in my life! I promise you wouldn’t be bored.

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My hope is for people to be able to enjoy their life regardless of what’s going on at the time. I have a close friend who has been married for over 10 years and they still don’t have any children. But, they have always wanted a family of their own. The thing is it never seems to be the right time. Why do people put off what they really want?

I think about the friends I know who put their lives on hold for one reason or another. I myself have fallen into this trap many times. My belief is that we are scared to go after our dreams because we may fail or it will take too much effort. It’s taken me awhile but I’m finally not making excuses and living my life to the fullest. I say if you want something go for it! It’s almost like putting off having children until your more financially stable. There is no magic here! One of my good friends has 3 kids who want for nothing yet money is always an issue. Both parents have to work in order provide for their children and they are HAPPY.

We really do need to live for today and not worry so much about tomorrow. The last thing I want is to have regrets about not going after my dreams. You can’t fail if you give it your all no matter what! You can just learn from it.

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