What is wrong with the men on match.com? One of my closest friends who is a total cutie with a great profile gets hardly any responses. She is secure enough to email men and she gets nothing back. This only tells me most of the men are not really looking for a relationship. It makes no sense because most men find her very attractive , a great sense of humor and very down to earth.

Or maybe the men find her to straight forward and they can’t play games with her because she will know what’s up. I have another girlfriend who is very pretty and the same thing happens. You would think if you just based your interest on looks the responses would just keep coming. Both women are over forty and successful women with alot to offer.

Match has been getting a lot of bad press in the past six months. I’m starting to think it is the worst site out there. It’s like on big pick up joint. I’m going to do some research on other sites that maybe a better option.

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Dating can bring out a lot of self esteem issues. We tend to start over thinking thing and creating a lot of drama. What I mean is we second guess ourselves all the time and begin to internalize things.

When it comes to love your really need to be open and not feed into insecurities that can take over. You need an open heart. Find what works best for you whether that is internet dating, blind dates or just going out to places that singles hang out.

We can’t hide and feel sorry for ourselves we need to trust in the universe and be patience. If your heart has been broken it is time to mend. Take chances is better than doing nothing.

When you meet the right person your fears should start to decrease. But, if you keep dating the wrong people that is when your fears increase. Break the cycle and make changes to the type of people you date.

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For all the people out there that get depressed on V Day because they don’t have a date please don’t.

Instead of being depressed I want to suggest taking some time and writing down your vision of this day with someone you love. When we create a vision in our mind of what this day could be like it is very powerful.

Positive thoughts are way more powerful and bring us hope and give us a sense of what our future can look like. Open your heart and be really for true love.

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I have said before that a first date is a meet and greet. I was talking to some of my men friends yesterday about what do you say at the end of the date. Should a guy say ” I give you a call soon” if they are not interested?

My suggestion was if your not interested say it was nice meeting you. If someone says I’ll give you a call you believe they will. Women want to know if the guy is interested. People will lie so not to feel uncomfortable at the end of a date. I’ve heard it and I’m sure you have to. Men will even go as far to ask if you’d like to have dinner sometime.

I’m not suggesting to hurt anyone’s feelings because that is just not nice. Just leave it alone without lying. Women will have more respect for you if you don’t lie. We’re big girls so we can take it.

This holds true for the women at the end of the date. Don’t mislead them!

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Many people have pleasant experiences online. There is a comfort trying to find a partner online vs. going out to meet them. I know several people who have met and married people from online dating services. It really is a matter of weeding through profile and finding someone who would be a true match.

Most of what I have written has been on what to watch out for online. And I don’t want to come across as if it’s all bad. But, it is what it is! Of course I hear more bad than good but each person will decieded what is best for them.

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Is it misleading to post an old photo of yourself online? There is only one answer and it is YES.

If you are going to take the time to write a profile then also get a recent photo too. People are misrepresenting themselves having old photos online. What are you going to say when you meet face to face? In this day and age you can use your cell phone to take a picture.

You should feel confident in how you look! Whether you are now 10 pound overweight or balding it all about how you look today.

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Women are not turned on by seeing if the best looking guy with a picture of himself without a shirt on. The only exception is a beach shot. Trust me on this because I have polled men and women on this subject.

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I spent this past weekend with my brother’s family. I have 2 very cute nieces and really don’t get to see them to often. It really is the only time I feel like I’m missing out on having children.

After they left I was very depressed and started feeling sorry for myself because I don’t have any kids of my own. The love I feel for my girls is huge. I only wish they lived closer to me so I could spend more time with them.

Is it just women who are single and older that have these feelings? I know a lot of single men who don’t want to have any kids. As for myself, I didn’t pop out of my mother’s belly and say “I want to be a mommy”.

It takes a couple days for me to snap out of the funk. It’s too late for me to have a baby and in reality I’m completely fine with it. I have children in my life that I adore. There’s a good chance I could meet a man who has kids and I’m totally cool with that. And someday I would consider adopting a child. In the end I am just grateful to have my nieces.

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Taking initiative does not mean being pushy, obnoxious, or aggressive. It does mean recognizing your responsiblility to make things happen.
Stephen R. Covey

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How many people do you know that hate Sundays? At about noon time people start to dread Mondays coming around so fast. I used to be one of these people. If your not happy in your current job you hate the thought of start another work week. I hear myself saying”Do I have to go to work tomorrow?” But, it is just because the weekend goes by so fast for me.

I believe if you have a good outlook on life it helps a lot. I try to take one day at a time and try not to worry about what tomorrow brings. I guess this is all about living in the present. As they say you can’t change yesterday and you don’t know what will happen tomorrow. Patience plays a huge role here and is something we all seem to need to work on.

So enjoy the day and try not to think about tomorrow!

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