Sometimes you find love when you least expect it! But, I am a firm believer that you have to be in it to win it. You have to put yourself out there if you want a relationship. No one is going to come a knocking at your door accept maybe Ed McMann and the Publisher’s Clearing House.

I have used several internet dating sites to meet men but have been unsuccessful. Sure, I met some really nice guys but no one that was a keeper. It was feeling more like a game.

Right when I decieded to remove my profile from the internet I received an email from a guy. The first time we talked I thought we would just be friends. A little over a week later we met for a drink and some food. We clicked right away and it felt very comfortable and we’ve been dating ever since.

I don’t know what the future holds for us but I’m very happy and taking one day at a time. So you do have to be in it to win it!

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Timing is everything when it comes to dating. Two people need to be at the same at the same place at the same time. If you both ready to make a commitment to start a relationship it’s a great place to start.

One of my closest friends met a really great guy but the timing is off. Now this doesn’t have to be a negative thing or something to be bummed out about. He has some things to deal with before he makes any kind of commitment. Once he has dealt with some personal issues I’m sure they will start dating. And as for my girlfriend, she is in the same boat. I am confident that all things come to those who wait.

On the other hand people use this as a why of saying I’m not really that into you. So don’t confuse to the two. The signals are there when someone stops calling or asking you out. You just need to be able to see fact from fiction.

The true test is if they still stay in contact without or if they drop off the face of the earth.

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Many of my posts related to internet dating are not the most positive but I speak the honest truth. I like to check out all different types of dating sites just to explore. I went on bikerkiss.com to check out the men. I had to sign up in order to view the men so I did a profile but didn’t really even say too much.

I got an email from a man and actually met him last week for a drink. Here I was thinking we would just be friends but we hit it off right away and I have seen him 2 more times.

So, with the bad comes the good. I hadn’t been into dating for the past couple of months to take a much needed break. I had no intention of joining bikerkiss.com but I’m glad he found me and we’ll see where we go from here.

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Keep an open mind when you join an internet dating site. If you have always dated one type of man or women it is your chance to explore your options.

When I have use an online dating service I kept an open mind to a variety of men. It was very interesting and I was quite surprise. Most of the men I would have never even talked to if I was at a bar.

You never know who you will end up liking so stay open and have fun.

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In this day and age so many singles are meeting people online. It is almost like a blind date in a way. Although, you may know a lot more about the person you still have no clue what they will like in person.

Repeat after me…A first date is a ‘MEET AND GREET”. Women especially need to understand this. Do NOT plan a whole day or evening with someone the first time. I know what your thinking but the reality is you don’t.

It truly is a bad situation to have to spend a two hour dinner with someone that your not attracted to. That is why you should meet for a drink or coffee and if you hit it off go from there or plan a real first date.

I remember getting fixed up with a guy through a friend of a friend. We talked on the phone and everything was going well so he wanted to take me out for a nice dinner and I said yes. When I first met him all I saw was the worst comb over I have ever seen and the guy was only 32. All I wanted to do was go back into my apartment and cry.

But, since I’m not a rude person I went on the date as planned. It was so painful and we had nothing in common to even talk about. So I just asked question after question to avoid silence. What nerve the guy even ordered dessert to make the night last a little longer. He knew that I was not interested at all.

So this why I say just meet for a drink and see if you want a real date.

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How To Recover
There are so many ways to get through break ups. What works for one person doesn’t always work for another. Some get really depressed and lose hope while others don’t beat themselves up over the situation. You can usually get advice from friends and family but it doesn’t mean you need to do what anyone tells you. We all listen but do what we want in the end or until we feel ready to listen. Besides, different friends and family members are certain to over varying perspectives on how you should feel, what you should do to get over the person, and what your next course of action should be.

Advice on Recovery
I can tell you first hand that I’ve been in some long term relationships and have learned a lot. Letting go has always been hard for me and I’m still not the best at it but I am so much strong now and have learned so much about myself and what makes me tick. Chose your own method and try and work through it. Go out, cry, laugh, and talk until your friends want to put a sock in your mouth. Whatever you do learn from your relationships and try to figure out what it is you want and how to go after it.

Professional Help or Hiring a Coach
Therapy is the best medicine. For all of you who say “that’s for the weak,” you are so wrong! You can try and deal with all your feelings yourself or talk with friends and family if that works for you. But, talking to a professional who doesn’t know you as well can be much more objective and really help you focus on what’s really going on. A lot of us sabotage relationships all on our own due to past experiences. Maybe we have a commitment, intimacy and or communication problem. Why not invest in yourself and mental well being? Are you afraid of what you will discover or are you ready to face your fears and move on?

Spiritual
Believing in something or someone is an awesome experience. I was never too religious so when things got bad I wanted and needed something to believe in. So once I was unemployed for awhile and I started reading some books on spirituality. I started to believe that I had a higher power. It doesn’t have to be God or even a person. It can just be a thought or image. We are all here for a reason and it’s a journey to figure out what your path is.

Coping Methods
We all cope differently so pick what works. Exercise and working out regularly can help you cope and relax. Yoga classes are great for your mind as well as your body. Sometimes we just need to sit with our feeling and work through them. Keeping a journal is a great way to get your feeling out. Plus, looking back and seeing what you have written can blow your mind. Meditate if you like. Get into your work and just do your very best. Buy a pet or go shopping. If you’re a man, go out and get some toys or build something. These are effective ways to spend time on a project and get time to help you.

Pity Party
This is not the best option but it works for some people. Have the party alone or ask your friends to join you. But, you only get ONE. It solves nothing but is a great way to cry or get some attention from loved ones.

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As a dating consultant I can provide assistance with dating and relationship issues as they come up. Consulting is about focusing on one situation at a time which is different from and does not warrant coaching. This will allow you to get insight on a particular question or concern.

What is Dating Consulting?
Dating consulting services are those that tackle unique aspects of a date. If you have questions about what to do under given circumstance, then you should speak to a dating consultant.

Your Personal Dating Consultant
As your personal dating consultant, I work with you on specific aspects of dating that could be improved. If you are unsure as to what a particular situation calls for, I will be there to teach you what successful dating singles already know.

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Do women have too many expectations when they first meet a man? The answer is YES we do! I myself have been guilty of this behavior. It’s as if we want this guy to fill in all the missing pieces in our life. We crave love and sometimes even have ourselves convinced that this guy is for us. Ask yourself why am I getting so carried away?

For some it is just that they are so tired of being alone , want to be taken out or need some attention. The pressure we put on ourselves is too much let alone the guy. And what if things don’t work out? You feel even more lost and depressed. Not all women are this way but there are alot of us that do.

I know when I’m getting carried away and need to slow myself down. There is nothing wrong with being alone and happy without having a man or the wrong man in your life. It is so much better than dating someone that gets on your nerve or never lives up to your expectations. And there are some men who do the same thing as women.

You need to love and accept yourself before you can be truly happy in a relationships. So be true to yourself and listen to your inner voice for the answers.

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What is wrong with the men on match.com? One of my closest friends who is a total cutie with a great profile gets hardly any responses. She is secure enough to email men and she gets nothing back. This only tells me most of the men are not really looking for a relationship. It makes no sense because most men find her very attractive , a great sense of humor and very down to earth.

Or maybe the men find her to straight forward and they can’t play games with her because she will know what’s up. I have another girlfriend who is very pretty and the same thing happens. You would think if you just based your interest on looks the responses would just keep coming. Both women are over forty and successful women with alot to offer.

Match has been getting a lot of bad press in the past six months. I’m starting to think it is the worst site out there. It’s like on big pick up joint. I’m going to do some research on other sites that maybe a better option.

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