There is no rule written in stone when it comes to how many dates should you have before sleeping with someone. I hear some men say there is a 3 to 5 date rule. It is all a personal preference but make sure you can handle not getting a call or date from the person you slept with too soon. Women need to become warriors that are strong and confident. A warrior knows when to go into battle and when to sit back and wait for the best outcome.

I have been there myself years ago and learned the same lessons as you. When I was single and online I would even write in my profile that if your looking for a hook up PLEASE just pass on by. I got so tired of the game. The men were so into me until around the 3rd date when I wouldn’t have sex and vanished into the night never to be heard from again. I was very clear that I was looking for my last love and nothing less.

Your self esteem and confidence can be affected by sleeping with someone and then never hearing from them again. So think before your leap and if someone is really interested in you they WILL wait.

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Is dating someone without baggage possible? Let’s be honest everyone has some baggage. We always see on dating site profiles “no baggage please”. It is just a matter of how big is your baggage. Is it the size of a carry on bag or a trunk?

I don’t know about you but having been through sh*t in your life make you either stronger or you let it weigh you down. It’s your choice on how you live your life and what you chose to let go of. I myself could make a list of all the drama in my life but I’ll tell you it has only made me stronger and more secure.

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Have you ever talked yourself out of liking someone to avoid your fears or being hurt?  When you have your guard up it is always for a reason.  Most likely it’s there due to past experiences.  There are times when taking a break from dating and doing some soul searching is exactly what you need.  It is better than going out on dates knowing that you will never have a second date due to your heart is just not into it.  We all need time to reflect and putting your dating on the back burner. I myself did this about 4 years ago and the benefits were amazing.  You whole outlook on being single changed.  When you are able to be clear about what you want out of the next relationship then it’s time to jump back into the scene.  So if your goals aren’t clear or your not over past relationships and the hurt that goes along with them just take a break.  You may consider relationship coaching or therapy.

 

 

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I think we need a “HAPPY SINGLES DAY”.  The holidays are hard for most singles and a time when you feel depressed or question why am I still single. I’m not talking about a day where you stay in bed all day and feel sorry for yourself.  But, a day where you honor your empowerment and singlehood.  It takes 2 singles to make a couple so we all start out single. There is alot of power in being on your own and being successful at taking care of yourself.  The most important relationship is the one with yourself so treat yourself and focus on what you have vs. what you don’t have.

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There are so many single people frustrated when it comes to their dating situation.  I wish I had a magic bullet to come up with one solution that would work for everyone to improve their love life. A year ago I was looking for the magic bullet myself.  The bottom line is you have to be in it to win it.  You need to stay open to new ideas of ways to meet new people. If the internet dating isn’t working for you let your friends and co-workers know that your willing to be fixed up if they know of someone.  Or, how about joining a sports group such as a skiing or volleyball club.  Find what interests you and research what organizations are out there to join.  In the next coming weeks I will post more ideas for finding your soul mate.  The bottom line is there is work and energy on your part to make this happen.

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It is very common for single people to be depressed during the holiday season. It is all about your loved ones and family. Always remember even when your not dating there are plenty of people in your life that love you and care for you.

What is must important is treat yourself with kindness during the holidays. Focus on what you have and not what is missing. We all have things to be grateful for so stay positive. Make a wish list for 2007. Write down all you hope, desires and wishes for the new year. Ask for what you want in a positive way to your higher power and watch what can happen. It will keep you on the positive path.

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Do you ever wonder why people always want to jump into a relationship without taking it slowly? For some all it takes is one date and they are off and running in their head. I believe it must be something you’re running away from on some emotion level.

It should never be that the next man or woman that comes along is your ticket to happiness. You know nothing about them and it takes times to really get to know someone. I know it is hard to stay in reality and not get caught up in a new romance. I have done this myself but learned that it was my own insecurities and fears that led me to wanting to jump right in.

If a relationship is meant to be time will tell. A new relationship stirs up so much in each of us. Each of us is dealing with some old hurts and feelings. This can only be worked out by pushing through the scary stuff. So the next time you meet someone new have patience and listen to your mind and heart. Mr. or Miss Wrong will never turn into Mr. or Miss Right no matter how hard you try.

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You can’t rush love especially when it comes to meeting someone from one of the internet dating sites. Trust me I understand how you can get your hopes up planning to meet someone. It is not healthy to put all your energy and hopes in a one hour date.

You really need to think of this as an adventure and take the chance on the chemistry just not being there. If you’re like me you know within 5 minutes if there is any chemistry or not. Then there are others who need a couple dates to know if this is Mr. or Miss Right.

There are so many lonely people who are looking for their soul mate. When you single focus on yourself and find what makes you happy. We can’t wait around for love to come a knocking at our door. Be happy and love will find you when you least expect it.

The bottom line is hopes and dreams are very important but we have to be open it. If you planning a date with someone new just go and see what you see or feel. Remember, as I keep saying a first date is a “meet and greet”.

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Have you ever noticed the people at the gym who just socialize and work out very little? Trust me this is a social outlet for many. You are surrounded by people with the same interested in staying fit. I think the gym is a great place to meet new people. But, dating every man or women that crosses your path is a big no no. And if you think it is only the 20 to 30 something crowd guess again.

I have known many men and women who use the gym as their main source of dating. Not a problem but you really don’t want to be known as the gym slut do you? I can remember an old friend of mine who was very attractive and she would flirt with every guy at the gym. I think she dated every good looking guy at the gym. One day a male friend of mine called me since we both knew this women to gossip. He told me she has slept with a lot of guys from the gym. I was very turned off and was not aware that she was sleeping with all these men.

Even I have dated guys from the gym but I only went out with the men I was really interested in. I look at it this way. Going to the gym is one of the things I can do for myself. It is my time to work out and clear my head. I didn’t want to have to avoid anyone at the gym or change the time I worked out just because I had a bad date.

Allot of couples have met at the gym and gotten married which is great. Just don’t use it as your “playground” in an unhealthy way.

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I have to say that I am a hopeless romantic and every once in a while something leads me to fantasize about the endless opportunities for romance. How amazing would it be to have your boyfriend, girlfriend, or significant other invite you on a luxurious private jet and has you fly around the world and tour exotic places?

If you dream big and have the financial resources, consider flying in a private jet and being treated like a king or queen. With today’s high-end jet charter companies this is possible. If you want something truly unique, you can design you own vacation with hotel stays and treating the person your in love with to something special is priceless. Giving them a surprise like this is so worth the value.

Romance aside; think about all the different occasions that a private jet can be used for whether it is business, family or just plain fun. A girl can dream but why not turn the dream into reality?

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