I got an email telling me I was the women of this man’s dreams. He was new to the site and told me in detail how he has been waiting for me. Oh, wouldn’t it be grand if this was the truth. WHAT DO YOU THINK I’M STUPID!!

I’d bet 100 dollars that this email went out to several women. You can be totally into a photo and profile and want to get to know that person. But, to make a blanket statement like that is nuts. So I wrote back to see what would happen.

Now, first off he is a very good looking guy. He told me I’m the only person that he needs now that he found me. That we are meant to marry and spend the rest of our lives together. Do I dare even tell you that he lives about 15 hours from me too! I’m not the person to play these games with because I’ve heard it all at this point.

Coming on so strong like that is not a turn on. But, the sad part is I know there are women out there who would believe everything this man was saying just hoping for it to be the truth.

The one thing about is I’ll tell you like it is and not what you want to hear. So if you want to chat about internet dating write me!

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I was talking to one of my friends last night about sending emails to men whom she finds interesting. If someone doesn’t write you back this is not something to take as rejection. Do you write back every person who emails you? Of course you don’t so turn it around and realize it is what it is.

It’s is like spinning the wheel of chance. Try and just have fun with it! I know we all wonder why someone doesn’t respond back but you need to just keep doing what your doing.

If your a women start emailing men. This isn’t the dark ages where the man has to make the first move. Women are just as assertive these days as men. You paying for a service so use it to the max.

Rejection can only happen after contact has been made. For alot of singles it is about just testing the waters and seeing what’s out there. I have become open to the types of men I will date now because of the internet. Read the profiles and if there is common ground go for it. But, if for example you don’t want children only target people that feel the same.

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It takes self cofidence to put your profile online. It says alot about your willingness to be open to possiblities. Think about all the people who complain how hard it is to meet people that refuse to try online dating.

You have to be in it to win it! I have a very hard time listening to people complain about never meeting anyone if they do nothing to put themselves out there. What is the fear? Yes, it can be the thought of having your photo online and there for the world to see it. What if an old boy or girl friend see you?

So what is what I say. We need to stop worrying about what other people will think. After all it’s your life and desire to find love. As we get older it becomes harder to meet people. So feel proud of yourself for taking the risk!

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I must be getting old because I can’t believe the amount of men and women looking for a friend with benefits on popular dating sites. I’m a very open minded person but find the thought of having sex with a total stranger a bad judgement call.

As a women I could never put myself in that position. You don’t know the people from a hole in the wall but your willing to give it up to just anyone. What if the man or women is a psycho? Then what do you do? Not to mention getting STD’s.

And when I read a profile where the man doesn’t put an answer for status I won’t even read any further. So are they married and looking for love in all the wrong places?

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I was doing a search yesterday on match.com and viewed a couple profiles. I came across one that interested me at first glance. About half way down in the guy’s profile it said ” I WILL ONLY RESPOND IF YOU LEAVE A PHONE NUMBER.”

You have got to be kidding me! How many responses do you think he will get? I’m totally cool with the fact he will not respond back to anyone who winks at him because it takes so little effort.

He really does not have any insight to women due to his request for your phone number.
Some of us have enough trouble writing to a guy because we want him to make the first move. (This is not the case for me) All it makes me think is his EGO is HUGE!! Sure, he was cute but not enough for me to email my phone number. The whole point is to email back and forth a couple times to feel the person out.

As you can tell this really bugged me! Always remember to put yourself in the other person’s shoes when writing your profile. You want to appeal to the sexes and not turn them totally off.

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I was with a friend of mine and she has a profile on match.com. She was feeling very rejected last weekend because no one was emailing her back or showing interest. She was taking this very hard and feeling bad about herself. She is a beautiful women inside and out. She was thinking that over the weekends that alot of men would be writing her.

My experience is that the weekend are slow because people are out doing things and not sitting in front of the computer. I shared my thoughts on the subject with a couple other friends and they also had the same experience. We can’t live and breath by internet dating and take everything to heart. I say do sites like match.com and others as one way to spice up your social life.

So here it is Saturday night so if you don’t have a date than call a friend and have dinner.

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I have described the internet dating experience as a Candy Store where men and women are just trying out different flavors. So many times someone writes you and shows interest but then they are gone. I have had many email and phone conversations and the person seems interested but we never end up meeting. They ever go as far as asking you out on a date. And I know I’m not alone.

For some the whole internet dating thing is a game but for those who are looking for a partner they get very frustrated. What I have done is not even bother writing back if I’m not interested so I don’t waste anyone’s time. Of course you need to sometimes exchange a couple emails before making a decision to proceed on. What about the people that in the first email say “hey here’s my number give me a call”. Most women do not feel comfortable doing this and I am one of them. I would much rather email the guy and ask some questions to dig a little deeper than just reading their profile.

If you think someone is just jerking you around then END IT!! We all know if someone is interested they will let you know.

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I know so many men and women in my area including myself that are fed up with internet dating. Whether it’s men or women we come across the same thing. The people don’t look like their pictures or are appear to be much heavier in their pictures. No one should have photos that are not current. What’s up with pictures that are 2 years old? Of course I hear more men say this than women. Or what people write in their profiles is far from the truth.

So I am thinking of starting a support group in my area so men and women can learn something from what the opposite sex say about their internet dates. It would be more about feeling not alone out there and being total frustrated and saying I quit. I want people to see beyond the meet and greet feeling. I myself learn more about what I’m looking for or not looking for from each date. It doesn’t have to be all negative. It’s about changing your additude.

Stay tuned!

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I came across a profile on Match that really caught my eye. We made contact and ended up talking on the phone and found that we were looking for the same thing in a partner. He lived about 2 hours from me so we chatted on the phone quite a number of times. Every time we talked it was looking like this could work. We were attracted to each others photos. We had the same wishes and dream of finding true love

He drove down to see me and spend the day together. There was an attraction there for sure. From the moment he saw me he was very touchy and this was a red flag to me. It was as if in his mind that this was it for him. I tried my hardest to slow him down and it would work for a short time and then he would become so intense. We hung out at my place with a couple of my friends but when they left it went all down hill from there.

We never stated how long he would stay but it was as if he planned on staying for days. We got into conversations where we disagreed and what appeared to me as fighting. I began to see how controlling he was and needed to end the date. But, he wouldn’t leave when I asked. I told him I had plans later on in the evening which only made him more angry. I’m thinking this is crazy it’s only a first date.

He felt as if I was rejecting him and say if I let him leave that will be the last time I see him. I told him he needed to go and we could talk later on the phone when he has calmed down. In the end, I knew I was sending mixed messages but was due to him being so intense.

I will just go back to the rules of first dates and not commit to an open ended date. Meaning, just meet for a drink or coffee and if your both interested look forward to a real date.

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