Most of the time people will lie about being married online in order to meet people. As I talked about yesterday you can see who has viewed your profile online. So I just saw a profile with the headline “Married and Lonely”.

On one hand it really bugs me that married men go on sites like Match. But, on the other hand he is letting you know from the start that he’s married and not happy. I would like the married folks should go to adult friend finders. LOL!

It would be so easy for me to say “hey if your that unhappy get a divorce”. I know at least 5 men that are unhappy in their marriages but are staying until the children go off to college. Only 2 of the guys I know would have affairs.

There is really not alot more to say on the subject. I’m guessing there are many people out there that wouldn’t have a problem getting involved with someone married.

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Some dating sites allow you to see who has viewed your profile. I really like this concept of seeing who has viewed your profile. But, here is my question. Why do people view your profile over and over again and never bother to contact you?

So I decieded to test out this theory and contact 2 men that view my profile at least every other day. I simply write that I noticed you viewed my profile so I thought I’d write you. One of the men just blocked me completely which I got a kick out of. What’s up with that? I guess he felt stupid because I knew he kept looking at my profile. And the other guy I just winked on Match. It took 3 days for him to respond to me. His email was one line that basically said nothing.

I would like to get one honest answer as to why they view the profile so much if they aren’t interested in you. So I’ll let you know if I get a reply but I doubt I will. If you are going to sign up for the service why not use it!

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There are times when internet dating can be very confusing. You begin to second guess who your looking for by the responses you get. What I mean is what if your 45 and only much older men or women write you.

Try not to take this to heart. Stick to you guns and wait until someone who you find interesting comes along. The problem is sometimes men or women want to date only much younger people.

What I suggest is start writing people that your interested in. Don’t always wait to be written to. In this day and age women should not have any problem writing men. It’s not like the stone age where a men has to make the first move. Your paying for a service so you should get as much out of the site as possible.

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I received an email from a guy on match yesterday. PROOF READ YOUR PROFILE! Not only did he have spelling errors in his headlines but also throughout his profile. He said he was “an iltelgent engennior”. I don’t know about you but that is a huge issue for me. Also, I hate when profiles are all written in CAPS. Most of us know that when you use CAPS it means YELLING!

We all make spelling errors but if you can’t spell your occupation you should really work on this. I had dyslexia as a child and try and be very careful with my spelling and grammar.

The bottom line is you are limiting the number of responses by not proof reading your profile. I can offer assistance writing profiles. Check out my coaching and consulting services if you want some help.

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I got an email telling me I was the women of this man’s dreams. He was new to the site and told me in detail how he has been waiting for me. Oh, wouldn’t it be grand if this was the truth. WHAT DO YOU THINK I’M STUPID!!

I’d bet 100 dollars that this email went out to several women. You can be totally into a photo and profile and want to get to know that person. But, to make a blanket statement like that is nuts. So I wrote back to see what would happen.

Now, first off he is a very good looking guy. He told me I’m the only person that he needs now that he found me. That we are meant to marry and spend the rest of our lives together. Do I dare even tell you that he lives about 15 hours from me too! I’m not the person to play these games with because I’ve heard it all at this point.

Coming on so strong like that is not a turn on. But, the sad part is I know there are women out there who would believe everything this man was saying just hoping for it to be the truth.

The one thing about is I’ll tell you like it is and not what you want to hear. So if you want to chat about internet dating write me!

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I was talking to one of my friends last night about sending emails to men whom she finds interesting. If someone doesn’t write you back this is not something to take as rejection. Do you write back every person who emails you? Of course you don’t so turn it around and realize it is what it is.

It’s is like spinning the wheel of chance. Try and just have fun with it! I know we all wonder why someone doesn’t respond back but you need to just keep doing what your doing.

If your a women start emailing men. This isn’t the dark ages where the man has to make the first move. Women are just as assertive these days as men. You paying for a service so use it to the max.

Rejection can only happen after contact has been made. For alot of singles it is about just testing the waters and seeing what’s out there. I have become open to the types of men I will date now because of the internet. Read the profiles and if there is common ground go for it. But, if for example you don’t want children only target people that feel the same.

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It takes self cofidence to put your profile online. It says alot about your willingness to be open to possiblities. Think about all the people who complain how hard it is to meet people that refuse to try online dating.

You have to be in it to win it! I have a very hard time listening to people complain about never meeting anyone if they do nothing to put themselves out there. What is the fear? Yes, it can be the thought of having your photo online and there for the world to see it. What if an old boy or girl friend see you?

So what is what I say. We need to stop worrying about what other people will think. After all it’s your life and desire to find love. As we get older it becomes harder to meet people. So feel proud of yourself for taking the risk!

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I must be getting old because I can’t believe the amount of men and women looking for a friend with benefits on popular dating sites. I’m a very open minded person but find the thought of having sex with a total stranger a bad judgement call.

As a women I could never put myself in that position. You don’t know the people from a hole in the wall but your willing to give it up to just anyone. What if the man or women is a psycho? Then what do you do? Not to mention getting STD’s.

And when I read a profile where the man doesn’t put an answer for status I won’t even read any further. So are they married and looking for love in all the wrong places?

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I was doing a search yesterday on match.com and viewed a couple profiles. I came across one that interested me at first glance. About half way down in the guy’s profile it said ” I WILL ONLY RESPOND IF YOU LEAVE A PHONE NUMBER.”

You have got to be kidding me! How many responses do you think he will get? I’m totally cool with the fact he will not respond back to anyone who winks at him because it takes so little effort.

He really does not have any insight to women due to his request for your phone number.
Some of us have enough trouble writing to a guy because we want him to make the first move. (This is not the case for me) All it makes me think is his EGO is HUGE!! Sure, he was cute but not enough for me to email my phone number. The whole point is to email back and forth a couple times to feel the person out.

As you can tell this really bugged me! Always remember to put yourself in the other person’s shoes when writing your profile. You want to appeal to the sexes and not turn them totally off.

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I was with a friend of mine and she has a profile on match.com. She was feeling very rejected last weekend because no one was emailing her back or showing interest. She was taking this very hard and feeling bad about herself. She is a beautiful women inside and out. She was thinking that over the weekends that alot of men would be writing her.

My experience is that the weekend are slow because people are out doing things and not sitting in front of the computer. I shared my thoughts on the subject with a couple other friends and they also had the same experience. We can’t live and breath by internet dating and take everything to heart. I say do sites like match.com and others as one way to spice up your social life.

So here it is Saturday night so if you don’t have a date than call a friend and have dinner.

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