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I was interviewed by Olivia Buckwheat Kelly for an article about internet dating called Wingmen on the world wide web. Check it out at www.iverb.com This is a very honest and funny article about dating on the web. Check it out and let me know your thoughts.
No wonder so many single people are totally frustrated with online dating. People wink each other but never write. Or then keep checking out your profile and still don’t write you. I recall when I was on match.com I wouldn’t even bother with anyone that winked me instead of writing. Not the man I want to be introduced too.
Is it because they are afraid of rejections and if so get over it. Why pay money to join if the only thing you do is look? So many women complain about the men on match.com. I say be a man and email the women. I understand if you happen to shy and have a hard time putting yourself out there. But, there comes a time when you must stop living in fear.
Most people are online for the same reason and that is to meet their ideal partner. But, there are people that are just looking to hook up for the night or are married. If you don’t take risks you will never get to the end result.
Clients and friends ask why do people lie who you meet online. I know you even write that you’re looking for a honest soul and still they just lie anyway. The answer is they are lacking self confidence and don’t believe in themselves. Lying is a way of covering up who they really are. Once someone starts lying it’s hard for them to stop unless they are ready to deal with their own issues. Lying to save the other person from getting their feelings hurt is a bunch of crap.
There is a way to say the truth without running over the person’s heart. Be kind and upfront and you will be amazed at how much the other person will respect you in the end. No one wants rejection but we can handle it. My advice is if you meet someone take your time to get to know them. The truth is hard to hide but it can take a little time to really get to know the inner working of one’s mind. Treat others how you want to be treated and you will be better off.
We all want to fall in love but maybe just don’t want so bad that you miss all the signs that this person is not the one. I have been there too so I’m not saying it is easy. Love and Like yourself and others will be drawn to you.
We want to meet someone and fall in love to get off the dating sites. Have faith and hope the right and honest person is out there along with
Did you know now you can meet someone via your cell phone? Match will be launching this service in the future. My guess is this is more for the 20 something singles. If anyone has tried this service please provide feedback.
I was watching TV and saw the ad about how EHarmony is rejecting people and not letting them sign up. So I did a search online and the real truth is related to gay and lesbians are not the company’s target market. Is this discrimination? I really don’t think so. The bottom line is it worth a lawsuit? Couldn’t you say the same thing about over fifty dating sites where your age matters? What if you just want to date people over fifty? I’m not a fan of EHarmony myself but it is my personal choice. But, Chemistry.com is smart to put this ad on TV because they are getting tons of exposure. But, it’s so misleading and turned me right off once I learned the truth.
You need to find sites that are suited for YOU to have a better chance of finding your soul mate.
You should always update your pictures online. I asked my girlfriend to show me the men on Match.com that have viewed her profile and I was shocked at how many men had pictures that were at least 2 years old. The last time I was a member on Match.com was back in 2005. I was amazed to see the same men with the same old picture. And of course this goes for women too.
Why would anyone put a picture up that is over 2 years old? Hello, what are you going to say when you find someone and you meet? I believe this is only showing insecurity about who you are. No one wants to go meet someone who is 25 pounds overweight since their picture was taken.
In this day and age there is no excuse for using an old picture. Ask a friend or take you own picture using a camera. Trust me everyone you meet will respect you a lot more. Believe in who you are today and not yesterday.
Do you find browsing profiles online fun or totally depressing? I say it’s both. Last night my single girlfriend and I were checking out men for her on Match. I remember all to well what it felt like looking at men who would be interested in me. This is called a reverse search. Now, if your a women over 40 this can be a challenge. Some of the men are in their late 50’s and early 60’s. If you’re young looking or young at heart this can give you a pit in your belly. It’s all personal preference! Some women want to date an older man who’s kids are all grown up and others want a younger men. There are a lot of younger men out there interested in older women. Women without a doubt feel better about themselves as they age. Some men age very well and in my opinion they get better looking.
There is a fun side to looking because it doesn’t hurt. You just can’t sit around checking out someone’s profile yelling “Pick me”. Take a chance and write some people even if your so so interested. Be BOLD and BRAVE and just do it. I know too many people who sign up and are afraid to write members. Don’t feel rejected if they don’t write back. Remember that don’t have a clue who you or what you’re about really. We are all attracted to different types.
There are so many single people frustrated when it comes to their dating situation. I wish I had a magic bullet to come up with one solution that would work for everyone to improve their love life. A year ago I was looking for the magic bullet myself. The bottom line is you have to be in it to win it. You need to stay open to new ideas of ways to meet new people. If the internet dating isn’t working for you let your friends and co-workers know that your willing to be fixed up if they know of someone. Or, how about joining a sports group such as a skiing or volleyball club. Find what interests you and research what organizations are out there to join. In the next coming weeks I will post more ideas for finding your soul mate. The bottom line is there is work and energy on your part to make this happen.
Instead of making New Years resolutions this year how about setting goals? Resolutions are easily broken and forgotten. I want to challenge the single people to start taking steps to improve their dating life. If finding a soul mate is high on your list start taking steps to better your chances. Don’t just say you’re going to join an internet dating site actually do it. When I say do it I mean sign up and start taking action. Too many people sign up and never complete their profile or respond to emails. As the Nike slogan goes “JUST DO IT”!
I am an consultant for lookingbetteronline.com. If you are looking for a great photo for Internet Dating sites check them out.
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