If you have or had breast cancer that makes you a pretty strong warrior in my mind. Whomever said that men are the stronger sex maybe wrong. It takes love, strenght, support and inner wisdom to go through cancer treatments. I always knew I was a strong women but having had breast cancer and chemo really was the test. I never felt sorry for myself and let the cancer bring me down. I just did what I had to do at the time with courage and strenght. Your mind and body are tested big time. Holy sh*t I thought losing my hair was worst then losing both breast. I could hide the fact that I had breast surgery with reconstruction. But, when I was told I should have chemo as a added benefit there was no hiding my bald head.

That being said my baldness was and still is my badge of honor. I have 2 more weeks until my hair starts to grow back and it seems like 2 years. The other night I cried my eyes out now that treatment is all over. All I could think was “look what my body has been through and how did I get through this”. The answer is I got myself through cancer. Of course, friends and family support helps in every step of the way. But, at the end of the day I did it and it’s all over. I am my own hero and YIPPIE!

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Clients ask me all the time why when you first meet someone they seem perfect. Then a couple months later the person doesn’t seem perfect at all. Is it that people tell you what you want to hear when your first start dating? We all know people that after one date are so sure the person is the one for them.

We all fall into this trap once or twice. Maybe it is because you want to be in a relationship so bad you will overlook the signs. Or tell yourself it’s better than being alone. Well, that is just not true. It is better to be alone than be with the wrong person. The only person that will lose out is you. Why cheat yourself out of true love?

The only person looking out for you is you. You are your one true best friend and the only person who has your best interest at heart. But this requires strength and trust. I’m always telling clients to honor their inner voice and allow it to guide you because it works. I’m not saying this is easy but with practice you will learn that all the answers you need are within. And when your inner voice is whispering in your ear things like “you deserve better” listen.

I’ve been there and I’m the first one to say that I used to just push aside my inner guide and do what I wanted. And for the most part if I was really in tune with myself I would have made better decisions. Through my coaching training and inner work I have learned to trust and listen to my inner voice no matter how hard it was. So start making better choices for yourself and you will find that you’re a lot stronger than you thought.

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You need to really ask yourself if you can handle the whole friends with benefits thing. This type of relationship or arrangement is not meant for everyone. You can’t have any emotional attachment or be in love with this person. Someone will get hurt if your feelings are not in check and it will most likely be YOU.

It is just about sex plain and simple. There is no need to wine and dine either. For women, it used to be a sin to have sex with someone who isn’t your boyfriend. But, times have changed and we can do what we want with no guilt or judgement on ourselves. There is nothing wrong with women wanting to get their needs met when your not in a commited relationship. Just be smart about it and make sure you use your head instead of your heart.

The bottom line is friends with benefits is not about love. Don’t be fooled into thinking “I can get him or her to love me”. Just have fun and remember that it is what it is.

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You know what? Life just isn’t fair at times. But, if you blame everyone else for your unhappiness that is not fair. What you need to do is start reflecting on your choices and decisions that you have made. It may not be pretty but most unhappy people blame everyone else for there problems.

I have a problem but who should I blame? I got cancer and I’m mad as hell. Who’s fault is that? Is it my mother’s fault because she had cancer or my sister’s or my dad who died of cancer? The answer is NO! But, these were the cards I was dealt and instead of being mad and impossible to be around I just took it one step at a time. Life happens and so you just need to deal with it. Sure, I was sad and thought for a couple days why me but I got over it fast. Now, I’m having chemo just as an added benefit. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.

I have grown so much in the past year and more empowered then ever. Nothing will bring me down that I can’t deal with. We all have the strenght to move beyond our challenges. Be kind to yourself and more important be kind to others. What you put out is what you will get back. Live, Love and Grow. Be happy in the moment! And if your not happy take steps to be happy. Life is too short.

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Why is flirting so difficult for some many women?  We all need to find our inner sexy self.  Check out www.feelingflirty.com for get advice and fun reading.  How we feel about ourselves can limit our ablility to feel sexy. There are several things you can do to gain self confidence and find your inner strenght.

There is a lot of focus on feeling sexy online or classes you can take.  How about taking a exotic or pole dancing class?  I say go for it! In fact www.feelingflirty.com has some great tips for you to start to putting into action.  I have always felt sexy but I still hold back my inner flirt a bit.  So now I find myself reading the feeling flirly blog too!  This is a great site for men also.

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Having Breast Cancer has completely changed my life in many powerful ways. Both, my mom and sister had bc survivors. I used to say that if this happened to me there is no way I can go through the same treatment as my sister. Most, of this internal chatter was fear talking and believing I was not as strong as my sister. Although, in many areas of my life I have proven that I am strong. Now, I am facing 4 cycles of chemo so my cancer doesn’t come back to bite me in the butt. Of course when I found out I freaked out big time.

Although the treatments will not interfere with my day to day life I will lose my hair. So I decieded to go look at wigs and let me tell you how empowering this experience was. For me I knew right away from trying on 10 wigs that there is no way I’m wearing one unless I find one that I love. As, I sat there I knew right away that I will not try and hide my hair loss with a wig but rather either go bald or wear a scraf. The loss of my hair will be my badge of honor to have beaten this evil thing. If I could make the choice to lose both breasts but have reconstruction I can do the chemo. Although, I had stage 1 bc there was a lot of it on one side and I am blessed to have caught this early and saved my life in the long run.

The lessons I have learned are that I am loved completely by my boyfriend, friends and family. I never knew how much until now. And, that nothing or no one can bring me down. Don’t ever doubt your own inner strength because it will surprise the heck out of you. I still feel sexy and beautiful even with what I went through. Of course having a man in my life that can look at my naked body with my war wounds and tell me he thinks I’m beautiful really has helped my emotional state. The most important lesson is that no matter what you look like on the outside it is who you are on the inside that really matters.

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Roy Beck’s celebrated demonstration of the population consequences of
current U.S. immigration policies has entertained and shocked audiences across the
country. This video is packed with the facts and analysis that make moral and
practical sense of a complex and highly contentious issue.
Roy Beck’s celebrated demonstration of the population consequences of
current U.S. immigration policies has entertained and shocked audiences across the
country. This video is packed with the facts and analysis that make moral and
practical sense of a complex and highly contentious issue.

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What is up with people driving SLOW in the fast lane? I drive alot on the highway these days. There is a new trend of drivers in the fast lane who have no clue what the FAST LANE really is used for. The other day I was behind a van from Florida and I have to believe they drove the whole way in the fast lane. I want to make up a bumper sticker saying ” This is called the FAST LANE for a reason”.

Now we all have our own opinion on driving and talking on the cell phone. If you are unable to multi-task then put the phone down. Driving in the fast lane and being clueless is very stupid. And if you live in Boston you know how rude other drivers can be. And men, this is not just women so just get over that fact. I have always been an agressive driver so I’m not perfect but I have changed my evil ways.

In the end the rules of the road clearly state that the left lane is the passing lane and not the slow lane. So, let’s all be safe out there and drive a little smarter. Yes, this does include me!

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Many clients and supporters have noticed I have not been blogging too much since the first of the year. I was diagnosed in early Feb 2007 with Stage 1 Breast Cancer and just had my last surgery. I am now proud to say I am cancer free and ready to take on the world.

Due to my own life drama I have not been coaching nor taking on any new clients. But, now I’m back and ready to go. I’m more empowered than ever!  I have learned many life lessons due to the cancer. My love, friendships and family relationships were tested in a big way. This was a huge test of strength and will.  I was very lucky to have been diagnosed early.  I’m glad to be back and look forward to hearing from everyone.  All my Best!

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Whoever said life is easy really doesn’t know what they are talking about.  Life is hard sometimes and you just have to deal with it.  Bad things do happen to good people.  This is why we need good coping skills.  We can get through anything and when the sh*t hits the fan just breathe.  All the bs in your daily life really doens’t matter in the big scheme of things. Being angry and blaming everyone else because your unhappy is not going to help and it is wasted energy. And no one wants to be surrounded by negative energy.

I used to worry about what other people thought about me my behavior or my choices. Now, forget about it. I only surround myself with positive people and energy. In the past recent months I have been dealing with a medical issue and the people around me are nothing but positive and loving.  No one or nothing is going to bring me down.  I feel more empowered then ever now.  I am a very strong women and can now know I can handle anything that come along. Never give up and find your own inner strenght.  Don’t rely on anyone else to pick you up and fix whatever is wrong or troubling you. You have the power to change so just do it.  Take baby steps if you must be don’t look back and say what if I did this or that. Live in the present and take each day as it comes. 

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