Having Breast Cancer has completely changed my life in many powerful ways. Both, my mom and sister had bc survivors. I used to say that if this happened to me there is no way I can go through the same treatment as my sister. Most, of this internal chatter was fear talking and believing I was not as strong as my sister. Although, in many areas of my life I have proven that I am strong. Now, I am facing 4 cycles of chemo so my cancer doesn’t come back to bite me in the butt. Of course when I found out I freaked out big time.

Although the treatments will not interfere with my day to day life I will lose my hair. So I decieded to go look at wigs and let me tell you how empowering this experience was. For me I knew right away from trying on 10 wigs that there is no way I’m wearing one unless I find one that I love. As, I sat there I knew right away that I will not try and hide my hair loss with a wig but rather either go bald or wear a scraf. The loss of my hair will be my badge of honor to have beaten this evil thing. If I could make the choice to lose both breasts but have reconstruction I can do the chemo. Although, I had stage 1 bc there was a lot of it on one side and I am blessed to have caught this early and saved my life in the long run.

The lessons I have learned are that I am loved completely by my boyfriend, friends and family. I never knew how much until now. And, that nothing or no one can bring me down. Don’t ever doubt your own inner strength because it will surprise the heck out of you. I still feel sexy and beautiful even with what I went through. Of course having a man in my life that can look at my naked body with my war wounds and tell me he thinks I’m beautiful really has helped my emotional state. The most important lesson is that no matter what you look like on the outside it is who you are on the inside that really matters.

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Sit back and be ready to be shocked by this video.  http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=4094926727128068265&pr=goog-sl
Roy Beck’s celebrated demonstration of the population consequences of
current U.S. immigration policies has entertained and shocked audiences across the
country. This video is packed with the facts and analysis that make moral and
practical sense of a complex and highly contentious issue.
Roy Beck’s celebrated demonstration of the population consequences of
current U.S. immigration policies has entertained and shocked audiences across the
country. This video is packed with the facts and analysis that make moral and
practical sense of a complex and highly contentious issue.

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What is up with people driving SLOW in the fast lane? I drive alot on the highway these days. There is a new trend of drivers in the fast lane who have no clue what the FAST LANE really is used for. The other day I was behind a van from Florida and I have to believe they drove the whole way in the fast lane. I want to make up a bumper sticker saying ” This is called the FAST LANE for a reason”.

Now we all have our own opinion on driving and talking on the cell phone. If you are unable to multi-task then put the phone down. Driving in the fast lane and being clueless is very stupid. And if you live in Boston you know how rude other drivers can be. And men, this is not just women so just get over that fact. I have always been an agressive driver so I’m not perfect but I have changed my evil ways.

In the end the rules of the road clearly state that the left lane is the passing lane and not the slow lane. So, let’s all be safe out there and drive a little smarter. Yes, this does include me!

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Many clients and supporters have noticed I have not been blogging too much since the first of the year. I was diagnosed in early Feb 2007 with Stage 1 Breast Cancer and just had my last surgery. I am now proud to say I am cancer free and ready to take on the world.

Due to my own life drama I have not been coaching nor taking on any new clients. But, now I’m back and ready to go. I’m more empowered than ever!  I have learned many life lessons due to the cancer. My love, friendships and family relationships were tested in a big way. This was a huge test of strength and will.  I was very lucky to have been diagnosed early.  I’m glad to be back and look forward to hearing from everyone.  All my Best!

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Whoever said life is easy really doesn’t know what they are talking about.  Life is hard sometimes and you just have to deal with it.  Bad things do happen to good people.  This is why we need good coping skills.  We can get through anything and when the sh*t hits the fan just breathe.  All the bs in your daily life really doens’t matter in the big scheme of things. Being angry and blaming everyone else because your unhappy is not going to help and it is wasted energy. And no one wants to be surrounded by negative energy.

I used to worry about what other people thought about me my behavior or my choices. Now, forget about it. I only surround myself with positive people and energy. In the past recent months I have been dealing with a medical issue and the people around me are nothing but positive and loving.  No one or nothing is going to bring me down.  I feel more empowered then ever now.  I am a very strong women and can now know I can handle anything that come along. Never give up and find your own inner strenght.  Don’t rely on anyone else to pick you up and fix whatever is wrong or troubling you. You have the power to change so just do it.  Take baby steps if you must be don’t look back and say what if I did this or that. Live in the present and take each day as it comes. 

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My life has always been a bumpy road with highs and lows.  It took a long time for me to stop playing the victim role and take control of my thoughts and feelings about whatever is in front of me.  Bad things do happen to good people but it is how we deal with the bumps that mold us.  I have always said what does not kill me will make me stronger. 

So next time your approach a bump in the road of life don’t give up on yourself and the people that love you. There is always something to learn from each experience both good and bad. We all have personal power and this is the time to call upon yours. Try and sit with your feelings and notice that the harder you look inward your strength will shine through. Write, talk to a friend but above all be honest with yourself. 

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If your not happy and want life to be different it will take work.  Doing nothing about your unhappiness is like spinning your wheels and staying stuck.  If your looking for love but never do anything about it guess what will happen.  It’s like waiting for Publisher’s Clearing house to come knocking on your door and give you tons of money.  Chances are it’s not going to happen.  So I challenge you to explore coaching and take the first step to improving your life and creating a new beginning. 

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I understand that being single can be very frustrating at times. It took me until  I was 45 years old to find my one true love. There is alot of wasted energy focusing on what we don’t have and past relationships and patterns.  If your not in a relationship and are depressed during the holidays it is up to you to change your additude. We can not expect family and friends to completely get it. Maybe you are not being as proactive in your dating approach and need to find something that works for you. My advice at times my seem generic but I have a broad range for readers.  If you want more detail regarding your situation feel free to write me and I would be more than happy to assist.

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Each relationship teaches us something about ourselves. I’m referring to all relationships you have or have had in the past. My belief is that we have many lives but have no memory of them. Each life teaches us lessons. So each person that strolls into my life I believe is here to teach me something about myself. Even the relationships where there is a lot of conflict. We see our strengths and weakness. So take some time to reflect on your role in your relationships and see the positive that can come from them.

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This past weekend I attend a workshop called the Millionaire Mind in NJ. The founder is T. Harv Eker who is a best selling author. If you want to be Financially Free it is well worth the time and effort. But, here is what you really need to know. Along with ways to manage your money it is all about selling other trainings classes. So you have to be able to tune out the selling part and focus on the tools that T. Harv Eker gives you to manage your money and invest for your future. If you want
financial freedom he is the man to learn a lot from.

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