The ex factor is plan and simple to me since I have been on both sides. It is very rare that two people who were in love and intimate to be just friends when they split up. I’m not saying it can’t work but it’s hard. Some feeling just never go away and it can get in the way of a new relationship. If both parties are involved with other people it could work. It takes a secure person and a lot of trust to be OK with the ex in the picture.

Does the attraction and chemistry just go away? We are all human and have to be honest about the law of attraction with the ex. I can be honest and say that it took years for me to stop wanting to get back together with a long lost boyfriend. For both of us it was just to know we could have each other again. Old wounds exposed and resurfacing is not all that much fun.

So, just ask yourself the basic question of why is this so important to cling onto the ex. And aren’t you just fooling yourself….