You would think that internet dating would be simple but in fact it is very complex. Not everyone is looking for the same thing. In fact all it really takes in common sense when you really thing about it.

Women want to understand why men play some many games online and guess what men want to understand the same thing. I have talked with many men and women and discussed their frustrations with the whole internet dating scene.

As for the men and what they have a hard time dealing with is women who want to be a couple as of the first date. Women seem to want to rush right in before testing the waters. Or, they act as if they are really interested in you and then never return your calls.

And the women want to know are men just looking for sex when they are on the internet. I heard a lot of women say if they don’t have sex with the guy on the second date the man is gone and never heard from again. Or, the men tell you everything you want to hear prior to meeting but once you meet them they are nothing as they have described.

Here is what you need to know. Use common sense when you join an Internet Dating site. And above all be realistic. The internet has a large number of dating sites out there and you should do your research before you join. Browse profiles first before you make a decision. Profiles tell you a lot about a person and what they are looking for. It is quite obvious by what people if they are truly looking for a relationship or just to have fun. All profiles to be brief as possible and straight to the point of who you are and the person you’re looking to meet. Put you personality into the profile and be honest.

There are so many people that lie in their profile and it just makes me laugh. Why not be upfront as to what your about or looking for. If you’re interested in having a relationship then say it and describe what type you’re looking for. And if you’re looking just for sex pick the best site suited for that audience.

Also, always use a recent photo of yourself. Not a picture of you that is 10 years old. Trust me when I say using a soap opera stars photo is not a good idea. I can remember when I was on Match.com and saw a TV stars photo on a profile I was in shock. I even went as far as to write him and “wow you look just like so and so. Another time I was writing back and forth with a guy who used a picture of a model as his photo. He had asked me for an additional photo of myself so I agreed if he would do the same. When I got the photo he was bald and overweight. I was not to happy and let him know. But, of course he called be shallow but in fact I would never trust a person who misrepresented himself. And the other thing is don’t lie about your age it is just plain stupid.

When you meet someone from the internet think of it as a Meet and Greet. This is not a real first date and makes no mistake about that. You need to meet the person to decide if you actually want a first date. So don’t put so much pressure on yourself or have too high of expectations. Lately, make it short and sweet when you meet and if you’re both are interested make plans for a real date. Don’t be fooled by all the emailing or phone calls and think this is the person of your dreams. You could feel like it is a bad dream. Trust me I have made this mistake once and I’ll never do it again. Above all just have fun and remember it’s just a meet and greet.