Communication is such a huge part of a relationship. If something is bothering you regarding your relationship it is best to let your partner know right away. Holding onto issues will build up until you talk about whatever it is that is bothering you.

What can and will happen is an emotional breakdown that comes out in other ways. Like starting a fight or acting like the other person is a mind reader. It isn’t fair to your partner and they can sense that something is wrong.

As for myself I get very quiet and all in my head. Sometimes my thoughts get out of control and I’m all over the place. My fear is bring up what’s bothering me and my partners reacting. My past experience has taught me that when you fight or disagree the relationship could end. If that were to happen I believe the relationship would end sooner or later.

So what I have learned is to more past my fears and communicate my thoughts and feelings when they start to appear. Otherwise, I will end up acting out and this is not fair to my partner. He isn’t a mind reader and can’t make things all better without having the facts. Most of the time I’m completely in my head and my thoughts are all over the place. So I need to express my feelings right up front once I know what I’m upset about.