Communication is such a huge part of a relationship. If something is bothering you regarding your relationship it is best to let your partner know right away. Holding onto issues will build up until you talk about whatever it is that is bothering you.

What can and will happen is an emotional breakdown that comes out in other ways. Like starting a fight or acting like the other person is a mind reader. It isn’t fair to your partner and they can sense that something is wrong.

As for myself I get very quiet and all in my head. Sometimes my thoughts get out of control and I’m all over the place. My fear is bring up what’s bothering me and my partners reacting. My past experience has taught me that when you fight or disagree the relationship could end. If that were to happen I believe the relationship would end sooner or later.

So what I have learned is to more past my fears and communicate my thoughts and feelings when they start to appear. Otherwise, I will end up acting out and this is not fair to my partner. He isn’t a mind reader and can’t make things all better without having the facts. Most of the time I’m completely in my head and my thoughts are all over the place. So I need to express my feelings right up front once I know what I’m upset about.

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It’s so important to maintain your friendships when your in a relationship. Friends help to keep you grounded and are always there for you to count on. I’m sure we all have friends who once they meet someone but everyone else on the back burner. Then once the relationship ends they come back into your life.

My friends are like my family and my time spent with them I treasure. I have never been the type to make a boyfriend my whole world. Although, it has been done to me and at times it has really hurt my feelings. I want whomever I’m dating to meet my friends and also hang out with them. I believe the 2 can merge and be a lot of fun.

So if your the type to give up all your friendships for a man or women you need to adjust your thinking. Each friendship has it’s own unique purpose and should be considered special. You have friends who you can laugh, cry or discuss the meaning of life with. So spend time with your closest and your partner should do the same. We all need girl or guy time.

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Now that the warm weather is here it’s time to get out of the house and explore. Have you ever noticed that internet dating sites have fewer new members during the summer months? Singles should get out and do outdoor activities as a way of meeting others.

Whether it’s joining a cycling or volleyball club or just going to the beach. People especially New Englanders are much more friendly once the warm weather is here. If you want a break from Internet Dating this is a good time of year.

Try and get your single friends interested in some type of outdoor activity. As they say” the more the merrier”.

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Most of us come into a relationship with some baggage that can’t be avoided. As much as we say leave the past behind you it is not always possible. This includes past hurts and ex-boy and girl friends. What I suggest is that you try not mix the old into the new. All we can do is learn from the past and break patterns of old behavior.

Many new partners don’t want to hear about your past relationships. Too much information could cause some problems for some. We never want to be compared to past boy or girlfriends. And what if they are still friendly with their ex? Can men and women really be friends after lovers?

I can only name on guy that I’m still really good friends with after dating for a year. Any other of the men still want to hook up every once in awhile. If is very hard to stay friends with someone you still have chemistry with. There are too many games played between the sexes and exes.

I have been dating someone for the past 3 months and he doesn’t want to hear about my past boyfriends or be compared to them. I totally understand and respect he wishes not to go too deep into my past relationships. Sure we talk in general terms about our past but that’s it.

If you are still hung up on the past it is going to get in the way of your future. Cut the cord and move on!

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Women seem to have a harder time than men responding to a email from their profile online. One of my friends just started online dating and got an email but didn’t know what to say or how to respond. So she called me for advice.

First off, the guy said “nice???!!! and smile. We all know what he is referring to when he uses all the ???!!!. Nice Body! So is he interested or just looking to hook up? You never know what the answer is but my guess is he is looking to hook up. I would never even respond back to this type of email but that’s just me.

You don’t have to respond to everyone who emails you. Although, it has been suggested to be considerate and email the person back to say thanks but no thanks. I’ll tell you the times I emailed the person back and said no thanks I got a rude email back. So do what feels right to you.

If your interested just write back and say hi and ask them any questions you may have after reading their profile. What do you have to loss?

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Emotions play such a big role in relationships. When women are premenstrual sometimes are emotions get all out of sorts. Most men don’t have a clue what it’s like for us when our hormones go crazy.

Honestly, I don’t think women who are having PMS should make any kind of a decision if you’re on an emotional rollercoaster. I say zip it before you say something you are going to regret. Since I’m so in tune with my emotions I follow this rule. There are times when I’m so sensitive that I take comments the wrong way. So I’ll pick up the phone and call one of my friends.

We each have our own way of calming ourselves down. Some women mediate or workout. Find whatever works for you and quiet your mind.

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In order for a relationship to stay strong and grow you must have mutual respect for each other. No two people are alike although you can have much in common. We need to respect the differences. An example is if you and your partner disagree on a specific topic. Just be open to their thoughts and feelings.

You can debate topics or problems but we are each allowed our own opinions. There is no reason to get all stressed out because they don’t see things the way you do. Of course this does not apply on big issues that will affect your relationship. I’m just talking about basic differences.

I personally like having a difference view than my partner’s. We come from two totally different background and have different experiences. We both learn from each other and are open to listening to each other’s opinion. I never wanted to be my male twin because I would be very bored.

So respect each other and stay open!

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All our dreams can come true- if we have the courage to pursue them. -Walt Disney

I love this quote because it is so true. We have to take a leap of faith and go after our dreams. For all those single people out there that do not take a proactive role in trying to meet someone this quote is for you. No one is going to show up at your door and you ride off into the sunset.

I know too many men and women who are so tired of being alone and all they do is complain about it. How does this help you? It only makes you more depressed and lonely so get up off the sofa and make your dreams come true.

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