Another part of new relationship growing pains are past relationships. No one wants to hear about the others ex’s. And of course we don’t want to be compared to your last relationship for better or worse. But, the reality is sometimes you just can’t help reliving someone’s past experiences. And what if their ex’s are still in the picture?

In a new relationship we want the focus to be all on us as if the past doesn’t exist. An example would be dating someone who has been married. I for one want to know what happened to the marriage and why it ended. And how is our relationship different from when you met your ex-spouse. The bottom line is you wonder will this happen to us?

Our past relationships and experiences are what shape us for the next relationship. I have learned so much about myself from my past boyfriends. I know my short comings and where I need to make adjustments for my next relationship. The bottom line is I now know the type of relationship I need and what works and doesn’t work for me. Everyone has baggage whether they want to admit it our not. We just don’t need someone baggage if it’s a truckload but we can deal with an overnight bags worth of the past.