As we get older and more settled in our own space to art of compromise is very important when you start dating someone new. It is so important for you both to keep an open mind and try not to judge the other too fast.

When your in your thirties and forties and have never been married compromise can be a struggle. I dated someone over six years ago and ended up moving into his place which was under renovation. He lived in his grandmother’s house so there was no way he was going anyway. His home was in a great location and there was no way he was going to give his place up. But, the relationship was a point of making more of a commitment. In the end it didn’t work out and I moved out.

Our careers and homes become an important part of our lives. Some people travel for work 3 or 4 times a week and this can be hard on your partner. You both own homes so then what do you do when the time comes to move the relationship further?

I can only speak for myself when it comes to what I would suggest or do myself in this situation. Although, I love my home and the area where I live for the ideal relationship, I would consider selling my place only if my partner was willing to do the same. The only exception for me would be if my partner owned a house in a town I would consider living in and I loved his place.

Although, I live in a condo at the moment I dream about owning my own house. I can close my eyes and visual the space and how I would like it to be. Since I have already been through living with someone and having it not work out I don’t think I would just move in with my partner. I would want us both to enter into this new phase of our lives together and make our living space a combined effort.

My suggestion to anyone in this position is to really think it through and make sure you will be happy with your decision. Life is about taking chances but when it comes to big decisions talk it through before you leap.