I think we all have been in a relationship at least once in our lifetime that really isn’t going anywhere. You know when you want more and your partner doesn’t. The most important thing is too not get in too far before you make a big mistake such as move in together or get engaged.

About 10 years ago I met a guy named Bill through a dating service. He was crazy about me right away but I wasn’t feeling it at all. He was nothing like any of my past boyfriends in every sense of the way. It didn’t matter if I was bitchy or passive he didn’t seem to care. He would bring me flowers each date and call me everyday. So I bet your wondering so what’s so bad about that? I never was into guys who kissed my butt all the time. As a matter of fact I found this a total turn off.

But, I started questioning myself about whether I was just trying to protect myself from being hurt and getting too close. I keep saying be open and go with the flow. So I did just that and let my guard down. So for about 4 months things were going great and I was really enjoying myself although he still wasn’t my ideal match. The next thing I know he’s telling me he loves me and I realized I loved him. Or did I?
Then BAM he breaks up with me out of the clear blue. One day he loves me and the next he’s gone. I was so upset but I wasn’t sure at who. It was as if he wore me down until I gave in. At the same time my sister found out she had breast cancer so I was a mess. Bill came crawling back and said he made a mistake and what do you think I did? That’s right I took him back. How stupid was that? This happened 3 times and each time I took him back. This was way before I had my act together when it came to men. The last straw was on the day I moved in with him and knew I had made the worst mistake of my life. We lasted 3 weeks and I moved out. Two months later he called and wanted to see me to talk. Now he wanted to get engaged. It was as if a brick hit him on the head and he’s now ready for a commitment now. Thank God I came to my senses and just walked away.

I realized that I only took him back so many times because it was easier than dealing with my sister’s cancer. I just didn’t want to be alone. My sister went through a year of treatments and I was the only family member close by so there was alot of pressure on me.

At this point in my life I would never stay in a relationship that wasn’t working or meeting my needs. If I had gone with my gut or the voice within I would have never dated Bill. So the bottom line is go with your gut and honor your inner voice because we all have the answers within.