There are two kinds of people when it comes to falling in love. Love at first sight or it takes you a while to know.

I have been in love four times in my life. Each time it has been love at first sight. There is a powerful connection when I first see the person. I am completely drawn to the man sometimes without even talking to him first. Is it destiny?

When I was in college I fell over heels with a guy but completely lost myself in him. He was everything to me which is not too healthy. Looking back 25 years later I know that I loved him very much but also that I shouldn’t have depended on him as much as I did. When we broke up I was devastated.

At the moment I am in love with the sweetest man but I am not consumed by the love. I was happy before I met him on my own. I can only describe him as the piece of the puzzle that was missing in my life. I am grounded and not out of control. There is a comfort level that is very peaceful.

Then you have the people whom it takes 5 or so dates to know if they are even interested in dating the person. Slow and steady! They may have a gut feeling about the person but need to be cautious. This is not a bad thing at all.

But, for me I need to stay true to my heart. I made the mistake about 6 years ago of dating a man who kind of grew on me. My gut said no but I wanted to give him a chance. He was very persistence and won me over but I was never in love with him. But, I did love him or so I thought. Again, he came into my life when my sister was diagnosed with breast cancer so I believe I just wanted to escape when what was really going on. Thank God I never married him. I moved in with him after a year of dating and 3 weeks later we broke up. It was the wrong thing to do but at the time I couldn’t get out of my own way to see the truth.

Which are you?