I am really starting to believe that asking God for what you want can work. It took me many years to believe in a Higher Power but through self exploration I feel very different now. When you feel lost or confused asking your Higher Power for guidance is very comforting.

In my own life there have been many struggles. I have lost people close to me and dealt with my sister having breast cancer. I was depressed for many years and was not religious at all. Then I was laid off from a job for seven months and I started to explore the concept of a Higher Power. I needed to see the purpose of my life and why I’m here. Along, with wondering why I have faced so many disappointments.

What I have come to understand is that my life has meaning and purpose. I turned inward and found that I truly have tremendous strength. I ask God and my guardian angels to watch over me and to guide me to find the answers within. I have a sense of inner peace now and I am so much happier.

Finding your Higher Power can provide you strength and peace. Explore!

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Friendship is a very important part of your relationship. What I think everyone needs is a best friend, lover and partner to make a relationship work. If you have all three with your partner it will be much easier to get through the rough spots. You want the person to get to know and love all sides of you.

I for one have a very playful side to myself. I love to laugh and share this side of myself. There is nothing worse that being with someone who doesn’t really get you.

Over time I think that is what keeps the relationship moving forward. never hide who you truly are and have fun.

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As we get older and more settled in our own space to art of compromise is very important when you start dating someone new. It is so important for you both to keep an open mind and try not to judge the other too fast.

When your in your thirties and forties and have never been married compromise can be a struggle. I dated someone over six years ago and ended up moving into his place which was under renovation. He lived in his grandmother’s house so there was no way he was going anyway. His home was in a great location and there was no way he was going to give his place up. But, the relationship was a point of making more of a commitment. In the end it didn’t work out and I moved out.

Our careers and homes become an important part of our lives. Some people travel for work 3 or 4 times a week and this can be hard on your partner. You both own homes so then what do you do when the time comes to move the relationship further?

I can only speak for myself when it comes to what I would suggest or do myself in this situation. Although, I love my home and the area where I live for the ideal relationship, I would consider selling my place only if my partner was willing to do the same. The only exception for me would be if my partner owned a house in a town I would consider living in and I loved his place.

Although, I live in a condo at the moment I dream about owning my own house. I can close my eyes and visual the space and how I would like it to be. Since I have already been through living with someone and having it not work out I don’t think I would just move in with my partner. I would want us both to enter into this new phase of our lives together and make our living space a combined effort.

My suggestion to anyone in this position is to really think it through and make sure you will be happy with your decision. Life is about taking chances but when it comes to big decisions talk it through before you leap.

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There are two kinds of people when it comes to falling in love. Love at first sight or it takes you a while to know.

I have been in love four times in my life. Each time it has been love at first sight. There is a powerful connection when I first see the person. I am completely drawn to the man sometimes without even talking to him first. Is it destiny?

When I was in college I fell over heels with a guy but completely lost myself in him. He was everything to me which is not too healthy. Looking back 25 years later I know that I loved him very much but also that I shouldn’t have depended on him as much as I did. When we broke up I was devastated.

At the moment I am in love with the sweetest man but I am not consumed by the love. I was happy before I met him on my own. I can only describe him as the piece of the puzzle that was missing in my life. I am grounded and not out of control. There is a comfort level that is very peaceful.

Then you have the people whom it takes 5 or so dates to know if they are even interested in dating the person. Slow and steady! They may have a gut feeling about the person but need to be cautious. This is not a bad thing at all.

But, for me I need to stay true to my heart. I made the mistake about 6 years ago of dating a man who kind of grew on me. My gut said no but I wanted to give him a chance. He was very persistence and won me over but I was never in love with him. But, I did love him or so I thought. Again, he came into my life when my sister was diagnosed with breast cancer so I believe I just wanted to escape when what was really going on. Thank God I never married him. I moved in with him after a year of dating and 3 weeks later we broke up. It was the wrong thing to do but at the time I couldn’t get out of my own way to see the truth.

Which are you?

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If you are 5′7 but your profile says 5′10 don’t you think women are going to notice when you meet? If the woman is 5′10 you can bet she will notice. It makes me think of an episode of Sex in the city when Samantha met a guy in a bar and when he stood up he was about 5’3. This just happened to my new co-worker last night. “Great looking guy with a HUGE ego and a little body”.

Anyone who feels they have to lie is very insecure with who they are. So I suggest getting you act together before even thinking of putting a profile online. Not even thinks internet dating sites are a game. If you’re a player than say your just looking to hook up. I’m not attacking just the men because we all know women can play games just as well.

There are so many single people just trying to meet the right person. All the lying does is disappoint, anger, and turn people off to internet dating. If you’re into games go to Friend Finders and leave the nice people alone.

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There are just some days when your just not in the best mood. Then you have an interaction with a friend or loved one and they say something that just sets you off. Most times you just want to say something back when it would be best to just let it go.

We all can’t be on the same page at the same time. Your up and they’re down. I have seen friends take comments to heart and then get upset when the other person is just joking around. The tension can be cut with a knife at times.

My best advice is to say nothing and figure out first what the reality is vs. what your reading into. Sometimes it is just better to walk away from the situation. When you have a clear head things don’t look so bad. Just let it go and move on.

We all know when someone is trying to pick a fight or being passive aggressive. There is a major difference. Those times are when you need to confront the issue and say how your feeling at that moment without attacking the other person and make the situation worse.

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Sometimes you find love when you least expect it! But, I am a firm believer that you have to be in it to win it. You have to put yourself out there if you want a relationship. No one is going to come a knocking at your door accept maybe Ed McMann and the Publisher’s Clearing House.

I have used several internet dating sites to meet men but have been unsuccessful. Sure, I met some really nice guys but no one that was a keeper. It was feeling more like a game.

Right when I decieded to remove my profile from the internet I received an email from a guy. The first time we talked I thought we would just be friends. A little over a week later we met for a drink and some food. We clicked right away and it felt very comfortable and we’ve been dating ever since.

I don’t know what the future holds for us but I’m very happy and taking one day at a time. So you do have to be in it to win it!

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Timing is everything when it comes to dating. Two people need to be at the same at the same place at the same time. If you both ready to make a commitment to start a relationship it’s a great place to start.

One of my closest friends met a really great guy but the timing is off. Now this doesn’t have to be a negative thing or something to be bummed out about. He has some things to deal with before he makes any kind of commitment. Once he has dealt with some personal issues I’m sure they will start dating. And as for my girlfriend, she is in the same boat. I am confident that all things come to those who wait.

On the other hand people use this as a why of saying I’m not really that into you. So don’t confuse to the two. The signals are there when someone stops calling or asking you out. You just need to be able to see fact from fiction.

The true test is if they still stay in contact without or if they drop off the face of the earth.

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Many of my posts related to internet dating are not the most positive but I speak the honest truth. I like to check out all different types of dating sites just to explore. I went on bikerkiss.com to check out the men. I had to sign up in order to view the men so I did a profile but didn’t really even say too much.

I got an email from a man and actually met him last week for a drink. Here I was thinking we would just be friends but we hit it off right away and I have seen him 2 more times.

So, with the bad comes the good. I hadn’t been into dating for the past couple of months to take a much needed break. I had no intention of joining bikerkiss.com but I’m glad he found me and we’ll see where we go from here.

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