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Do women have too many expectations when they first meet a man? The answer is YES we do! I myself have been guilty of this behavior. It’s as if we want this guy to fill in all the missing pieces in our life. We crave love and sometimes even have ourselves convinced that this guy is for us. Ask yourself why am I getting so carried away?

For some it is just that they are so tired of being alone , want to be taken out or need some attention. The pressure we put on ourselves is too much let alone the guy. And what if things don’t work out? You feel even more lost and depressed. Not all women are this way but there are alot of us that do.

I know when I’m getting carried away and need to slow myself down. There is nothing wrong with being alone and happy without having a man or the wrong man in your life. It is so much better than dating someone that gets on your nerve or never lives up to your expectations. And there are some men who do the same thing as women.

You need to love and accept yourself before you can be truly happy in a relationships. So be true to yourself and listen to your inner voice for the answers.

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If your feeling frustrated with internet dating I suggest you take a break. Sometimes people feel like searching for a mate is a part time job. It’s hard for singles not too caught up in the whole process. We begin to start questioning whether it worth the time and money.

I think the older we get the less options we feel we have. We all can remember all the time we spent out at bars or dance clubs with our friends. But, once we hit our mid- thirties it’s not so much fun anymore. Why not spend some time doing something that will get you out and around your peers? Spring is coming and there is so much more to do.

I for one can only take the dating sites for a short period at a time. But, the more you do it you seem to get clear on who your looking for. If it wasn’t for the internet I wouldn’t have explore meeting different types of men. Half the men I have met I would have never even given a chance if I met them some other way. I feel like I have a clear picture of the man I’m looking for.

So take the break and stop feeling so pressured to meet someone. Give youself credit for putting yourself out there because at least your doing something to meet singles.

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I thought you might like to check out an article I work for my site at Which one are you?

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What is wrong with the men on match.com? One of my closest friends who is a total cutie with a great profile gets hardly any responses. She is secure enough to email men and she gets nothing back. This only tells me most of the men are not really looking for a relationship. It makes no sense because most men find her very attractive , a great sense of humor and very down to earth.

Or maybe the men find her to straight forward and they can’t play games with her because she will know what’s up. I have another girlfriend who is very pretty and the same thing happens. You would think if you just based your interest on looks the responses would just keep coming. Both women are over forty and successful women with alot to offer.

Match has been getting a lot of bad press in the past six months. I’m starting to think it is the worst site out there. It’s like on big pick up joint. I’m going to do some research on other sites that maybe a better option.

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Most of the time people will lie about being married online in order to meet people. As I talked about yesterday you can see who has viewed your profile online. So I just saw a profile with the headline “Married and Lonely”.

On one hand it really bugs me that married men go on sites like Match. But, on the other hand he is letting you know from the start that he’s married and not happy. I would like the married folks should go to adult friend finders. LOL!

It would be so easy for me to say “hey if your that unhappy get a divorce”. I know at least 5 men that are unhappy in their marriages but are staying until the children go off to college. Only 2 of the guys I know would have affairs.

There is really not alot more to say on the subject. I’m guessing there are many people out there that wouldn’t have a problem getting involved with someone married.

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Some dating sites allow you to see who has viewed your profile. I really like this concept of seeing who has viewed your profile. But, here is my question. Why do people view your profile over and over again and never bother to contact you?

So I decieded to test out this theory and contact 2 men that view my profile at least every other day. I simply write that I noticed you viewed my profile so I thought I’d write you. One of the men just blocked me completely which I got a kick out of. What’s up with that? I guess he felt stupid because I knew he kept looking at my profile. And the other guy I just winked on Match. It took 3 days for him to respond to me. His email was one line that basically said nothing.

I would like to get one honest answer as to why they view the profile so much if they aren’t interested in you. So I’ll let you know if I get a reply but I doubt I will. If you are going to sign up for the service why not use it!

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My friend passed this on to me and it’s worth a post.

SISTERS

A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot humid day, drinking iced tea and
visiting with her Mother. As they talked about life, about marriage,
about the responsibilities of life and the obligations of adulthood,
the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully and turned
a clear, sober glance upon her daughter.

“Don’t forget your Sisters,” she advised, swirling the tea leaves to
the bottom of her glass. “They’ll be more important as you get older.
No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love
the children you may have, you are still going to need Sisters.
Remember to go places with them now and then; do things with them.
Remember that ‘Sisters’ means ALL the women… your girlfriends, your
daughters, and all your other women relatives too. You’ll need other
women. Women always do.”

‘What a funny piece of advice!’ the young woman thought. ‘Haven’t I
just gotten married? Haven’t I just joined the couple-world? I’m now
a married woman, for goodness sake! A grownup! Surely my husband and
the family we may start will be all I need to make my life worthwhile!’

But she listened to her Mother. She kept contact with her Sisters and
made more women friends each year. As the years tumbled by, one after
another, she gradually came to understand that her Mom really knew
what she was talking about. As time and nature work their changes and
their mysteries upon a woman, Sisters are the mainstays of her life.

After more than 50 years of living in this world, here is what I’ve learned:

THIS SAYS IT ALL: Time passes. Life happens. Distance separates.
Children grow up. Jobs come and go. Love waxes and wanes. Men don’t
do what they’re supposed to do. Hearts break. Parents die. Colleagues
forget favors. Careers end. BUT………

Sisters are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are
between you. A girl friend is never farther away, than needing her, can
reach.

When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it by
yourself, the women in your life will be on the valley’s rim,
cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on
your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley’s end.
Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you.

Or come in and carry you out.

Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters, daughters-in-law, sisters,
sisters-in-law, Mothers, Grandmothers, aunties, nieces, cousins, and
extended family, all bless our life! The world wouldn’t be the same
without women, and neither would I.

When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of the
incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead Nor did we know how much
we would need each other. Every day, we need each other still.

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My great Aunt is dying and it should be anytime now that she passes on. She has had an amazing life and knock on wood with no health problems until now. She fell and broke some ribs and has never really recovered.

At this point she has decieded that this is it for her. I totally understand that at the age of 85 she would rather die then have to be taken to a nursing home and give up her apartment. It is her wish for the family to understand that her will to live is gone.

But, for the past 3 days she has been in a very deep sleep and is still holding on. The mind maybe strong but it is the body that says I can no longer fight. My family is just waiting around for her to pass.

I honor her wish to give into dying even if we want her to stay around. I believe in life after death and that we live on in spirit. So I am now waiting for my new angel to watch over me.

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The following is what I wrote for my Great, Great Aunt who is dying.

Growing up I always heard how special Aunt Indye was. My father had a special relationship to Indye and he always said she was his favorite. I would say I didn’t think of Aunt Indye as my great, great aunt but more of a grandmother.

Indye was such a special person to us all. Her love could fill a room with warmth that we could all feel. I always felt so loved and in return she has and always will be in my heart even in her passing. I loved when she would call me up for my birthday and sing to me even up until the age of 45. Indye had asked me to do one thing for her before she died and that was to get married. This makes me very sad in one way but what I know in my heart is that when the time comes her spirit will there with me. At least she left this earth knowing that I am happy and healthy and that’s all that really matters to her really.

Indye had an amazing life and now it’s time for her to join the rest of the family that is waiting for her. She may be gone from us physically but never in spirit and she will watch over all of us to make sure we keep all the promises that were made to her. There is not one day that goes by that my dad is not in my thoughts and I know it will be the same with Aunt Indye. Plus, can’t you hear all the laughing that will go on when all the Lesnick’s meet up to greet our special Indye.

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