I came across a profile on Match that really caught my eye. We made contact and ended up talking on the phone and found that we were looking for the same thing in a partner. He lived about 2 hours from me so we chatted on the phone quite a number of times. Every time we talked it was looking like this could work. We were attracted to each others photos. We had the same wishes and dream of finding true love

He drove down to see me and spend the day together. There was an attraction there for sure. From the moment he saw me he was very touchy and this was a red flag to me. It was as if in his mind that this was it for him. I tried my hardest to slow him down and it would work for a short time and then he would become so intense. We hung out at my place with a couple of my friends but when they left it went all down hill from there.

We never stated how long he would stay but it was as if he planned on staying for days. We got into conversations where we disagreed and what appeared to me as fighting. I began to see how controlling he was and needed to end the date. But, he wouldn’t leave when I asked. I told him I had plans later on in the evening which only made him more angry. I’m thinking this is crazy it’s only a first date.

He felt as if I was rejecting him and say if I let him leave that will be the last time I see him. I told him he needed to go and we could talk later on the phone when he has calmed down. In the end, I knew I was sending mixed messages but was due to him being so intense.

I will just go back to the rules of first dates and not commit to an open ended date. Meaning, just meet for a drink or coffee and if your both interested look forward to a real date.