I was talking to one of my friends last night about sending emails to men whom she finds interesting. If someone doesn’t write you back this is not something to take as rejection. Do you write back every person who emails you? Of course you don’t so turn it around and realize it is what it is.

It’s is like spinning the wheel of chance. Try and just have fun with it! I know we all wonder why someone doesn’t respond back but you need to just keep doing what your doing.

If your a women start emailing men. This isn’t the dark ages where the man has to make the first move. Women are just as assertive these days as men. You paying for a service so use it to the max.

Rejection can only happen after contact has been made. For alot of singles it is about just testing the waters and seeing what’s out there. I have become open to the types of men I will date now because of the internet. Read the profiles and if there is common ground go for it. But, if for example you don’t want children only target people that feel the same.

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I spent this past weekend with my brother’s family. I have 2 very cute nieces and really don’t get to see them to often. It really is the only time I feel like I’m missing out on having children.

After they left I was very depressed and started feeling sorry for myself because I don’t have any kids of my own. The love I feel for my girls is huge. I only wish they lived closer to me so I could spend more time with them.

Is it just women who are single and older that have these feelings? I know a lot of single men who don’t want to have any kids. As for myself, I didn’t pop out of my mother’s belly and say “I want to be a mommy”.

It takes a couple days for me to snap out of the funk. It’s too late for me to have a baby and in reality I’m completely fine with it. I have children in my life that I adore. There’s a good chance I could meet a man who has kids and I’m totally cool with that. And someday I would consider adopting a child. In the end I am just grateful to have my nieces.

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It takes self cofidence to put your profile online. It says alot about your willingness to be open to possiblities. Think about all the people who complain how hard it is to meet people that refuse to try online dating.

You have to be in it to win it! I have a very hard time listening to people complain about never meeting anyone if they do nothing to put themselves out there. What is the fear? Yes, it can be the thought of having your photo online and there for the world to see it. What if an old boy or girl friend see you?

So what is what I say. We need to stop worrying about what other people will think. After all it’s your life and desire to find love. As we get older it becomes harder to meet people. So feel proud of yourself for taking the risk!

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Taking initiative does not mean being pushy, obnoxious, or aggressive. It does mean recognizing your responsiblility to make things happen.
Stephen R. Covey

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I must be getting old because I can’t believe the amount of men and women looking for a friend with benefits on popular dating sites. I’m a very open minded person but find the thought of having sex with a total stranger a bad judgement call.

As a women I could never put myself in that position. You don’t know the people from a hole in the wall but your willing to give it up to just anyone. What if the man or women is a psycho? Then what do you do? Not to mention getting STD’s.

And when I read a profile where the man doesn’t put an answer for status I won’t even read any further. So are they married and looking for love in all the wrong places?

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I was doing a search yesterday on match.com and viewed a couple profiles. I came across one that interested me at first glance. About half way down in the guy’s profile it said ‘’ I WILL ONLY RESPOND IF YOU LEAVE A PHONE NUMBER.”

You have got to be kidding me! How many responses do you think he will get? I’m totally cool with the fact he will not respond back to anyone who winks at him because it takes so little effort.

He really does not have any insight to women due to his request for your phone number.
Some of us have enough trouble writing to a guy because we want him to make the first move. (This is not the case for me) All it makes me think is his EGO is HUGE!! Sure, he was cute but not enough for me to email my phone number. The whole point is to email back and forth a couple times to feel the person out.

As you can tell this really bugged me! Always remember to put yourself in the other person’s shoes when writing your profile. You want to appeal to the sexes and not turn them totally off.

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How many people do you know that hate Sundays? At about noon time people start to dread Mondays coming around so fast. I used to be one of these people. If your not happy in your current job you hate the thought of start another work week. I hear myself saying”Do I have to go to work tomorrow?” But, it is just because the weekend goes by so fast for me.

I believe if you have a good outlook on life it helps a lot. I try to take one day at a time and try not to worry about what tomorrow brings. I guess this is all about living in the present. As they say you can’t change yesterday and you don’t know what will happen tomorrow. Patience plays a huge role here and is something we all seem to need to work on.

So enjoy the day and try not to think about tomorrow!

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I was with a friend of mine and she has a profile on match.com. She was feeling very rejected last weekend because no one was emailing her back or showing interest. She was taking this very hard and feeling bad about herself. She is a beautiful women inside and out. She was thinking that over the weekends that alot of men would be writing her.

My experience is that the weekend are slow because people are out doing things and not sitting in front of the computer. I shared my thoughts on the subject with a couple other friends and they also had the same experience. We can’t live and breath by internet dating and take everything to heart. I say do sites like match.com and others as one way to spice up your social life.

So here it is Saturday night so if you don’t have a date than call a friend and have dinner.

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You should always stay true to yourself and what your looking when your dating. So many times we give our power over to another. This can happen if you settle on issues that are important to you. Deep inside ourselves we know when this is happening.

We date or get involved with people that are not ideal for us just so we get a moment of pleasure or don’t want to be alone. So we begin to settle on the idea that it’s better than nothing.

We all have personal power within us. What makes us feel powerful and what doesn’t? There have been times when my inner voice is so strong that I can not avoid doing what’s best for myself. It really about doing what is right.

An example is you meet someone and your interested in them. I started dating an old boyfriend for a short time about 2 years ago. Scheduling to see each other was always around him and his free time. I never even complained or discuss the issue with him. At least I got to see him was what I started telling myself.

I gave my power away to him and finally I decieded this is just wrong. I want to be with someone who makes time to see me and looks forward to the next time we get together. Once I made the decision to honor what I needed it was just so clear that I needed to walk away. The best part was I didn’t feel sad or like I was losing something. I felt empowered and was so proud of myself.

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