Putting yourself out there is not always fun

September 13th, 2016 by Dating Warrior

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The truth is putting yourself out there looking for love sucks most of the time.  Yes, I’m using the word sucks so where is the motivation of this dating coach?  It’s call reality and if you don’t stay in it you’re in trouble on an emotional level.  One of my closest friends is out there online trying to meet a great guy. But, one date after another are just so depressing.  It’s a numbers game when it comes to dating online.  You just have to push yourself and watch the self talk and negative thoughts.  As I always say meet and greet and don’t spend endless hours texting and talking.  You have less of a chance of beating yourself up for wasting all that time.  Go meet and if there’s nothing on the menu you like be polite and hit the road.

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The art of Compromise

June 20th, 2016 by Dating Warrior

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As we get older and more settled in our own space to art of compromise is very important when you start dating someone new. It is so important for you both to keep an open mind and try not to judge the other too fast.

When your in your thirties and forties and have never been married compromise can be a struggle. I dated someone over six years ago and ended up moving into his place which was under renovation. He lived in his grandmother’s house so there was no way he was going anyway. His home was in a great location and there was no way he was going to give his place up. But, the relationship was a point of making more of a commitment. In the end it didn’t work out and I moved out.

Our careers and homes become an important part of our lives. Some people travel for work 3 or 4 times a week and this can be hard on your partner. You both own homes so then what do you do when the time comes to move the relationship further?

I can only speak for myself when it comes to what I would suggest or do myself in this situation. Although, I love my home and the area where I live for the ideal relationship, I would consider selling my place only if my partner was willing to do the same. The only exception for me would be if my partner owned a house in a town I would consider living in and I loved his place.

Although, I live in a condo at the moment I dream about owning my own house. I can close my eyes and visual the space and how I would like it to be. Since I have already been through living with someone and having it not work out I don’t think I would just move in with my partner. I would want us both to enter into this new phase of our lives together and make our living space a combined effort.

My suggestion to anyone in this position is to really think it through and make sure you will be happy with your decision. Life is about taking chances but when it comes to big decisions talk it through before you leap.

What age do you consider old?

April 26th, 2016 by Dating Warrior

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You’ve got to watch this video “Millennials Show Us What ‘Old’ Looks Like Can you even imagine being part of the The Silent Generation (1923-1944) think of technology? I have enough trouble as a 55 year old thinking about the Jetson’s cartoon and cars flying in the sky. The world has changed so much for my mom’s generation and it must make their heads spin. I don’t think the Millennials really think we’re that old or at least my nieces say I’m not old. Who’s kidding who!



Tinder and Ankle Montior

April 25th, 2016 by Dating Warrior

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On Saturday I received a message on Tinder from a guy who wanted to meet for coffee. Hey, I’ll go since it’s such a nice day out. We meet outside of a shop and sat under a tree on the grass. He was an angry guy due his ex-girlfriend got a restraining order and he spent a day and a half in jail just last week. When he stretched out his legs I saw a criminal ankle bracelet. I’m thinking what the f–k for sure! It all could be a big misunderstanding or his ex is really crazy. Wait, one more thing….he blew his nose with his hand. He just went on and on about how good looking he was and how hot his old girlfriend was. What to do on a date 101. I don’t want to meet anyone I don’t know a thing about except they live 9 miles away. Good thing I have a great sense of humor and was more amused than anything else. Date smart and safe especially on Tinder. Of course, this could happen on any site.

Tinder and over 50

April 19th, 2016 by Dating Warrior

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I downloaded Tinder recently just to see what the fuss is all about. I was shocked to see how many baby boomers were swiping left and right. It my personal opinion is at first it’s kind of fun to see who you’ve matched with. Then you text for a bit and most of the time you never meet. It’s a great place for those married to have an affair for sure. Why does everyone claim their not looking for a hookup? Well, if that’s the case pull up you big boy/girl pants and get out there and meet.

So what do you think? I know for me it was a total waste of time. Unless you’re stuck at an airport with a 4-hour delay and want make your carpal tunnel worse. You’ve got to give the over 50 singles props for even trying Tinder. If you want to hook up go for it but I think it’s a waste of time. The funniest part for me was if I didn’t respond to a text within a few minutes it would piss some men off. Really! I know we can’t get enough of our phones but there is such a thing as having a life.

How to spot a fake on dating sites

July 16th, 2012 by Dating Warrior

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Warning 2:
So you start emailing with someone from an online dating site and decide its fine to give out your personal email address. Hey why not take it to the next level and get to know someone better. I’d do it wouldn’t you? And, most of the time the email address contents their full name. Now you have a huge opportunity right? If you’re like me I would do a search on Google to see what information is out there for this person. The alarm should start going off in your head when nothing comes up. With all the social networking going on most people can be found on Facebook or LinkedIn. Then I would go to the White Pages because the town they live in is listed in their profile. Still nothing! Run fast and don’t look back. Just block their email address and say next. I know most of you would know to do some research but not everyone does. Below is an email from someone at match.com to a friend of mine who is kind enough to share with us. Stay tuned tomorrow because there is more. She agreed to keep emailing this guy and it just gets even more interesting.

Hello _____,

Where do i start from?Firstly I must commend your intelligence for being able to figure out the mail correctly. Really it is disturbing to come on this dating site to see how much people appreciate love, but yet We have to go the extra mile to get this great status. Forgive my manners, i am ______, an ______ of international repute. But really i am hanging the hat this year, i think after getting all the wealth in pursuit, i have come to realize that we are nothing without a partner, someone who would stand by me no matter the situation. A woman who i can say, she alone has the right to be womanly irritating to me,lol. A woman who would protect me like a lioness would do her cub,lol. and i can promise to protect her beyond all vices. A woman who tells me, honey, you can do it,. no matter what i want to do. I really worked hard the past 12 yrs to attain this height.

I have seen faces of women on this site, many of whom have been taken for granted, many of whom are not being reciprocated, but i have come with a good news and a bad news… the good news is i came here to pick my woman to make happy, my eight wonder, my best friend, my copilot, but the bad news is that i have only one woman to do this for. Let me be your last love to live your best life. I am as open as a book and I am really sure of what I want from a relationship. I believe faith must have led you to me and I hope we can take this really far. I see we share a lot in common. I want you to tell me more about you as well. I hope to read from you soon.

Online Dating Warning

July 15th, 2012 by Dating Warrior

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Warning 1:
Date smart online and use common sense. When it comes to the heart we all want to believe what we read. You get an email saying I think you’re the one for me and they tell you how wonderful you are and so on. Their emails are so romantic and hopefully that you’re the one. And they want to keep emailing until you can meet. But, it will have to wait because they are traveling abroad right now so this love will have to wait. They would love to get your address to send you a note or card. Please don’t do it. We all know that some emails are scams. It’s the same as if you’re researching to buy a laptop and you find one for half price online. But, you can only pay by Western Union so hopefully you stopped right then. People will go to great lengths to take advantage of the lonely hearts. Please don’t give out your personal information like your date of birth or address. I hate to see this happen to anyone but it does every day. Don’t dwell on the fact you had some hope just move on. This is one simple step to protecting yourself.

When to leave a marriage

March 10th, 2012 by Dating Warrior

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I was just reading an article about the right time to leave a marriage. There are so many ups and downs in any relationship and I know it’s tough. Fear and anxiety can eat away at you. Like I always say “honor your inner voice and allow it to give you” even when it is scary.

Should a Life Coach Have a Life First?

February 13th, 2012 by Dating Warrior

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Here is a great article written by Spence Morgan about is there an age barrier when to be a coach. What makes a good coach is their knowledge and sensitive which comes from within.

What conversations do you think you should have before getting engaged or married?

February 11th, 2012 by Dating Warrior

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Check out this great article in the New York Times about what you should talk about before you get engaged or married. Love can come at a cost if you don’t ask talk about the hard stuff or just jump right in. A must read for those over 35. As I always say listen to your inner voice and the questions will appear.