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No matter what you think there is so much to be thankful for. I know this time of year can be hard for some people and you must try and stay as positive as possible.
Be grateful for the following:
Each Day
Each experience whether good or bad
Your present health
Your family
Your friends
Your job
Each time you laugh or cry
Making the most out of life
Accepting love in your life
Staying positive
Not taking on others negative energy
Believe it or not there are a lot of single people that are happy. If you can stay in the present and not look back or too far forward you can find inner peace. It is only when you look back or wish your life was different in the moment that kicks your butt each and every time.
I don’t live in the past anymore because I can’t change a thing and actually I wouldn’t want to. I’m here now in this moment and can visualize all I want in my life. I don’t say things like “I want or I need”. Instead I imagine what I desire as if it already exist.
So, be happy if you’re single at the moment and embrace the here and now. Live your life and all good things will come in due time.
The ex factor is plan and simple to me since I have been on both sides. It is very rare that two people who were in love and intimate to be just friends when they split up. I’m not saying it can’t work but it’s hard. Some feeling just never go away and it can get in the way of a new relationship. If both parties are involved with other people it could work. It takes a secure person and a lot of trust to be OK with the ex in the picture.
Does the attraction and chemistry just go away? We are all human and have to be honest about the law of attraction with the ex. I can be honest and say that it took years for me to stop wanting to get back together with a long lost boyfriend. For both of us it was just to know we could have each other again. Old wounds exposed and resurfacing is not all that much fun.
So, just ask yourself the basic question of why is this so important to cling onto the ex. And aren’t you just fooling yourself….
I found a great tool to help create and organize you life and work. It is called The Bubble Planner. It’s a daily, weekly and monthly planner for your hopes, dreams and goals. I know that in the world of PDA’s we all want to go paperless. My feeling is when you are planning tasks to improve your life you need to use a pen and paper. I personally need to touch and see my action plan.
The bottom line is this planner will keep you on track with goal setting. The best part is having a plan for your wishes, hopes and dreams.
I was interviewed by Olivia Buckwheat Kelly for an article about internet dating called Wingmen on the world wide web. Check it out at www.iverb.com This is a very honest and funny article about dating on the web. Check it out and let me know your thoughts.
When you’re having second thoughts about a relationship it is not cut and dry. Most of the time we look at the person were dating as the problem. You need to explore your actions and reactions. This is not easy to do because so many people want to blame the other person. Being empowered in this situation means having the courage to look within and find the truth.
Any relationship without some tension or disagreements is not a real relationship. Love is the ups and downs and joy and sorrow. My own relationship has times when both of us want to walk away. But, when we look at what is going on for each of us we see the truth. Honor these times whatever the outcome may be. Take time apart if you need it. I am not referring to a breakup.
Every aspect of our lives is work. And it maybe scary but it’s well worth the effort. If you need help don’t be afraid to ask.
What do you think? There are many people out there that enjoy being single. And, not for reasons that you would think. It isn’t that they have so much baggage that they could sink a ship. Or they just can’t commit.
Times have changed and so have the views of not wanting to run to the alter or settle down. I have a couple friends that say their life is fulfilled. I don’t think you are truly alone if you have a good circle of friends and family. If you are not planning on having children is one reason people stay single.
These days a lot of men and women 35 and older find a way to get their needs met. Some just want a friend with benefits. There is so much judgement on this subject that really makes me laugh. It’s better than being with someone that you have no interest in a future with but enjoy the time you spend together. It is a mutual choice and it works for some.
Women make just as much as men now and can take care of themselves. I say good for you! And for men who don’t want a family and are happy being single the same goes for you. When I think of being old I have to say I picture myself hanging out with my girlfriends. My friends and I joke about it but it could happen if we out live our men.
None of us are perfect and at times our evil side comes out and there is no turning back. I for one am a very calm person and it takes a great deal to get me mad. When in the middle of a disagreement it can be very hard to just breath and not react. Most of the time when you fight with someone it isn’t even about the issue at hand. It could be a built up of tension from something that happened yesterday.
If you get in a heated conversation and each of you feels the need to have the last word someone needs to walk away. You can walk outside pissed off and calm down or go for a drive. Then when you’re ready ask the person to take a walk and talk. The funny thing is what you’re really fighting about will not be the same for both of you.
What is most important is to give each other space. I used to want to resolve the issue right away and now I just let it be. I even let it go most of the time and know this is just how the other person is and that is not my problem nor do I need to feel the need to change their mind.
Learn from the fight and try and gain a better understanding of where the other person is coming from. And, think about your own behavior and what changes you can make.
As a lot of my readers have noticed I have not been blogging to much in the past year. I had breast cancer and I’m happy to say I’m cancer-free, my hair is back and so am I. My goal is to get my coaching and consulting going again.
So I have made the promise to myself that as of September 1st I will blog everyday. So keep the emails coming and look forward to some exciting changes coming. It’s been a strange ride learning to deal with new boobs but I’ll be kicking it when I’m 90 with the best boobs around.
Is this true? My thoughts on this subject are simple. Unless, you have taken steps to figure out why you cheat it will most likely happen again. I just heard a story about a women in her 70’s who remarried her husband after 17 years of being divorced. He cheated on her, then his second wife and lastly her once again. Everyone is calling the man a total jerk. I agree but let’s be honest here, you really thought it wouldn’t happen again?
The matters of the heart are risky so don’t let anyone fool you. It’s a gamble and if you’re lucky your heart will not get broken. Better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all. I totally believe this and in life it is all about taking risks and putting yourself out there. Just be smart about your choices. Be honest with yourself and above all and honor your inner voice. It will guide you if you choose to follow.
